Yeah, he just keeps telling me that he's not saying I'm a bad mum but then listing everything that in doing wrong
Sounds like you have 3 children at home at the moment, in which case you will need to “mom” your hubby a little to get him to grow up and take more responsibilities. Being outside of the house 24/7 is not an option when you have 2 children. Start small, so the changes do not overwhelm him & slowly build the routine and habits for him to take on with the kids. You are not a bad mom at all. You are always the mom that your kids need. You are doing the best that you can. You just need a little break here and there from your bubbas to restore your energy so you do not loose your patience too fast, because let’s face it, we all loose patience at some point :)) also, when fixing the house with tools (I do fixing at home), it’s indeed an adult’s responsibility to safeguard the children from accidentally picking up the wrong thing as they are such curious creatures! Surely there is a way to place the tools in a safe spot where bubbas cannot reach it or think of smth more appropriate☺️
Have you spoken to him about this?