Venting

I just don't understand how someone could go weeks or months without checking on their child... I've tried having heart to hearts more than 3 times with this man ! I just want help ! I feel like he should be here 24/7 helping me regardless because we planned her then he switched up so now I feel like since she's here he should have to grow up like I had too! & it doesn't help when people around him enable him .... would I be wrong to cut him and his family off? I'm so tired of them making me seem like I'm the bad one when I'm the one doing everything 24/7 😭 if I stop responding to all of them id be wrong ? I just want him to care about our daughter and help me raise her but why do I feel like the bad person for trying to make him do right by her ? I woke up yesterday morning with a bad cold so I asked him his plans so he can come help me ! I got no response until today after 4 messages to him .. he says "my bad I can come help but you have to wait a few " LIKE am i over reacting? I really want to go off on him !

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Then I told him nvm because I shouldn't feel like I'm begging him to come help me take care of OUR child ! & he responded "you not begging " like wtf

I don’t think you’ll be wrong to cut them off I had a donor literally a donor, i told him he didn’t have to be in the child’s life so it was planned He said he wanted to be there for the child during the pregnancy we gain a relationship When i was ready for a second child we had another purposely And during that pregnancy he changed and disappeared He’s cut off I have a huge support system outside of him so it isn’t that hard for me but i don’t think your wrong for cutting them off especially if they cause you more stress than helping

Don’t force that man to do his job as a father, if it matters to him then he will do it. Your gonna keep stressing yourself out trying to make this man grow up girl, that’s not your responsibility to do. I’m telling you my mom tried that with my dad when we were babies and she had to stop, he missed out on some years of our lives and he eventually grew up and came around but we had to make a bond with him because I felt like I didn’t know him. And that was entirely HIS FAULT. And the family is just as wrong for making you seem like the bad person, cut them off as well, your strong and you can do this. The way I see it your daughter needs YOU and you don’t need all that unnecessary stress in your life girl.

@Kayla that’s what i had to realize I cussed him out one last time, told him i can’t make a man be a man and i can’t make you be a father

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