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What is wrong with these men
You need to have a good talk with him. I had to tell my husband that the baby didn’t give me time to shower or eat. I think he understood it more when I’ve gone to the doctors and he was with the baby alone. Maybe tell him you need 4 hours to yourself and that he needs to take care of the kid and see if he changes his way of thinking
My husband puts it as I work looking after a baby while he is at work, so while he is home in the evenings or weekends our workload should be split evenly, especially as I do the night shifts with the baby in the week on top of everything else. I hate it when people act like just because they go to a job they're doing more 🙄
I swear some men need a brain wash 🤦🏻♀️ I told mine the other day “something is wrong with our door because every time he comes from work he’s so tired he lays down for the evening…maybe I should get out more often”… They are going to work and getting payed for it whilst we do it 24/7 for free and still get these attitudes 😤
If you can do a pump and then leave the baby with him for 4-6 hours. You don't need to be completely unavailable. However I would make a bet with him that he cannot take the baby for that short period of time. If that doesn't change his mind then he can take baby for 48 hours besides you breastfeeding. He has to be awake everytime your awake. Then if he complains point out that this is what you do everyday in addition to XYZ chores so he needs to stop acting like you don't work just because your don't get paid for it.
@Courtney Yes, he had a night shift and he loves night shifts more than day shifts because it’s less busier. Also he always stays up late.
Yeah he’s wrong 😑
My husband once said it... so next day off he had I left him our LG. I only fed her. When she cried and it wasn't from hunger, I said, figure it out, it's not as hard as going to work. He never dared to say this bs again
Thank you, everyone. I feel much better now. I usually don't complain because I love looking after my LO, but unfortunately, my husband takes advantage of me.
Uhm tell him that you didn’t make this baby on your own why should you have to always be the one to look after bubs. Or you simply just leave bubs with him for a good few hours with some pumped milk and go get yourself pampered (tell him not to contact you unless it’s an emergency - and no poopsplosions do not count) and he can see how easy it is for himself! Don’t forget to let him know about the laundry/dishes that are piled up and make sure you request dinner and dessert for your arrival home. When you get home demand to know where dinner is, hold baby for 5mins while scrolling through your phone then hand bubs back and go do whatever you like to unwind. This whole “I work so I shouldn’t have to look after baby” thing is bullshit. And Weaponised incompetence is a common thing. We are all learning and trying to be parents for the first time - there’s no excuse for him that he can’t help.
Also this poem: What have you done all day? I'm filling bellies, hearts, and minds I'm future-shaping I'm washing dishes, clothes, and faces Keeping it all going I'm breathing life into tasks That are really quite boring I'm slowly falling in love I'm neuron-building Mind going ten to the dozen Anticipating I'm reppin 14 extra pounds Bone-aching I'm conjuring every single sleep I am frankly done in I'm living between rooms Sleepwalking I'm singing songs I'm sounding out I'm fred talk-ing I'm cutting hair and nails and corners Streamlining I'm hanging on by a thread Almost disappearing I am the household worry doll Mood-absorbing I'm regulating little bodies By virtue of my skin I'm tracking temperatures and rashes A whole heap of worrying And I must make it look like nothing But this is really quite something So I'll secretly smile Ignore your line of questioning I'm collecting cuddles, sticks, and giggles I'm sneaking peeks at my beautiful babies
Letting it all sink in Because It's this Seemingly this Shockingly, this Obviously, this ...that I will miss.
Leave him because wtf is that attitude towards you? Where is the respect? You’re better off without him hun😊
Rude! He needs to understand that staying home with a baby all day IS work, it’s exhausting and when he is home the care then becomes 50/50. Your job is looking after the baby in the day (and night probably), and his job is going work in the day. It’s then split when you’re both there- just because he works during the day doesn’t automatically make your job looking after the baby 24/7!