Am I the only one who hasn't gotten back to normal yet?
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@Amanda thank you, this literally made me tear up knowing I'm not alone ♡
I am the same! I have one almost 6-month old and I'm still feeling overwhelmed. My son doesn't sleep through the night and wakes at least 4-6 times every single night 😴 but at first my husband couldn't understand how it was so hard to get things done when I'm "just home with the baby" all day. Soon after that statement I had to drive to the airport to pick up my mom and decided he would stay home with the baby while I made the four hour round trip, plus stopped for lunch and took my time. By the time I got back he had a better understanding of why I wasn't able to get more done. He bought one of those robot vacuums and helps out around the house more. I think some men just don't get it until they have to experience it. It's difficult when you're both working hard in different ways and don't see the others perspective.
I have a 3 year old and 5 month old and a husband who cooks, cleans and does laundry and we still struggle to get it done!! My laundry nearly never gets put away. I just try and keep the kids’ rooms organized. Some weeks are better than others and when we can’t take it anymore my husband and I stay up late on a weekend and clean together. I’m on maternity now but am full time work and I 100% believe dads need to be pitching in!! Someone else mentioned the robot vacuum. We have one and it helps a lot! I also agree leaving your husband with the kids for a short amount of time will make him realize. I’m so sorry he is not appreciative of all you are doing. The babies needs should always come first. And I will tell you. Even when we do clean the house it’s messy again the next day 🤪
@Alex I've tried this although I don't fully trust him with the 2 of them and he gives them very extremely minimal attention. Once he said he understood but that didn't last. The next time he pitched such a fit about having to watch them so I could go to an appointment and threatened to make me cancel it so I took them to the park and wore them out and kept them up through morning nap so they'd nap almost the whole time for them. He said I had it sooooooo easy! I asked what he did with them once they woke up from a 2 and 3 hour nap. He stuck our 2 yr old on his iPad and said he just held the baby. He didn't even change the babies diaper the whole time I found out...so yeah I guess it was easy...
For what it’s worth, you sound like an amazing mother! I’m so sorry you’re not getting the help/support you deserve ❤️
Your husband needs to suck it up and wash some dishes! What is he on about?! 5 months is basically a war zone and every day all of you survive is a huge accomplishment. Most people I know with babies this young have a house that looks like a tornado went through it— and you have a second one?! Listen- you are taking care of two tiny humans who want to get into everything dangerous & messy— and who need to be held. And you get them outside every day? Mother of the year. Tell that man to pick up a mop if he wants the house to be nice.
@Casaundra thank you so so so much. It's the only thing I've ever loved doing in my life and I hate that he takes so much of the joy out of it for me by basically telling me I'm not doing enough or anything. That means a lot thank you
@Casey so much love to you for this 🫶
You guys are just making me feel so much better! I wish I could have you all over in person lol, glad I posted. Thank you girls so much ♡♡♡
Feeling the exact same over here. Same ages. On top of feeling so behind on household chores, I have extreme mom guilt over not being able to give my second baby the same time and devotion I was able to give my first. Now we have toddlers to entertain and chase after. I love my life, too, and this is all I ever wanted, but it's hard not to feel alone, underappreciated and misunderstood. I'm with you 🤍
@Erin exactly ♡♡
I can understand not exactly trusting your husband to watch them as well as you would. Even though my husband tries, I still worry when I leave our son with him. I'm sorry that it sounds like you're not being appreciated for the most important job of all, taking care of and nurturing the children. That's definitely the most important thing to focus on and it sounds like you're doing a great job! ❤️ hopefully your husband will recognize that sooner rather than later
@Alex thank you ♡♡
Girl you’re definitely not alone i still struggle to get up in the morning
You're not alone at all!! I'm coming up on 6 months postpartum and I kid you not, I think I've only put away 1 load of mine and my fiances laundry 😵💫 I have enough time to take care of my baby's clothes, but that's it! Also side note...I only have the one baby!