How do you leave a relationship?
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I also don’t wanna leave him high and dry with no money.
I get that, but if the relationship is over, then you either need to work together to separate finances and make a plan, or if he is unwilling then you need to prioritize your own wellbeing. Or if you still want to work it out, maybe try therapy?
Thank you. It’s so hard talking to him about it
I actually just went through something similar. Out son is 18 months and it was really hard. It wasn’t even so much as arguing for us, but I kept asking for help and asking him to clean up after himself and it just never happened. At one point I just decided that I couldn’t do it anymore. It was draining. And my therapist said, if you’re constantly doing more work than the other person, is it really worth it? The hardest thing for me was my son because I wanted more than anything to give him a whole family where mom and dad are together and happy, but kids are right through us. Kids know growing up if mom and dad aren’t happy. So I started saving back some money from each paycheck and I broke it off 4 months ago. It’s been a big change, but im not having to beg someone to help me or to clean up after themselves and that in itself is such a big weight lifted.
My husband and i went through this. We fought like hell to get through it and work it out. We made it. And are now expecting our fourth baby
Honestly just start figuring out what you need to do to be financially independent from him. Make a plan and then work toward it. It most likely will involve getting a roommate or staying with family for a while. Nothing will change if you keep doing the same thing you are doing, so you just need to build an exit plan. If you are a single mother, then you have TONS of options for state assistance which should help you get on your feet without him.