Should I get divorced or stay ?

I been married for 14 years and lawd knows I been threw some shit with this man and his family he move in our house . We have 2 kids and I’m currently pregnant. We don’t have any connection anymore, less say me I don’t have any connections to him anymore. The more he lies and defends his mother over me it’s the more I don’t care about this marriage. I have no sexual connection nothing I’m dead inside for him . Someone could say he passed away today and I wouldn’t cry . He put me through hell and back and I can honestly say I’m only stay for my kids. He plan unexpected trips by himself and tells me last time. He left Saturday and returned this morning at2am . He didn’t text me or call but if I do that he accuses me of cheating. I know he loves to flirt and he can’t take no for an answer from a woman which I find strange after I marry him . I can’t stand him family. His mother is in our house and I refuse to cook for anyone but me and my kids so she is in her feelings. Idc ima do me

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Leave find happiness you deserve happiness even if you single trust me girl being alone is ok. I was scared after I left my abusive husband. I was scared to be on my own wish my kids. I was scared to be solely responsible for them but the PEACE I had was amazing. Find happiness.

@Stephanie thank you I making plans to leave honestly this is not for me anymore

He's deflecting. He's sadly probably doing what hes accusing you of. Thats his guilty conscious. Girl, if he could die (God forbid) and you know you wont care, its time to leave. Then again, im not a therapist or anyone special with a degree. I dont know how much youve been through but you sound over ir. The kids will be happier if they see Mom is happy. Teach them to find their happiness. Go find yours, girl. You deserve so much better, tbh.

@Ivy thank you . Gods knows what I been through.

@Ivy you think he would be more caring that I’m pregnant

Theyre gonna keep doing what they think is best for them whether youre pregnant or not. My Mom always said "a baby wont make him stay" and it's true. So eff him! Do whats best for you! Trust me, i know its easier said than done, but, however long it takes, it will be worth it. AND PUT 👏 HIM 👏 ON 👏 CHILD 👏 SU 👏 PPORT 👏 I CANNOT emphasize that more.

And please, if his mother disrespects you, do NOTHING for that braod.

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@Ivy trust me I stop cooking altogether and just cook for my kids . She can’t cook so she orders food everyday . And she took her man mister kid and she doesn’t take care of him . He give disability and she take the money and drinks. She alcoholic

Thats dangerous to have around the kids, for sure

@OhMeOhMai thank you

Leave !

First of all 14 years of your one and only precious life was a lot of sacrifice! I'm no therapist but I've been through something similar or worse. I left the man almost 4 years ago - BEST decision of my life!! My Church helped me. 1) Get support from your friends and family- Plan and leave him. Exit strategy is important. 2) It's going to be ugly and they will both turn on you and make you feel guilty. - I don't know if you're Christian. But I dwelt on the Word of God and it kept me sane. 3) Make sure you reach out to a good lawyer for counsel. The kids deserve a better childhood experience. Such people rarely change. Will keep you and your lovely kids in prayers. These little ones get so confused and worried and they don't need more heartache at their ten Watch dr.davidclarke on YouTube for understanding. https://youtube.com/@DrDavidClarke?si=bFlWl34gAnsKKMPG

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