What should I do?

I mean, do you trust he has nothing going on with this friend?
Maybe she suggested the name and he really liked it just the same way you did. It seems innocent to me unless anything else in those messages or anything else has given you a reason to think otherwise.

Considering you’re checking his phone and messages it seems like there could be trust issues there already , but that’s just the vibe this post gives off in my opinion.

no I know there’s nothing going on between them she has her own family and no I trust him 100% I don’t go on his phone to look through his messages we just both go on eachother phone occasionally if we get bored of our own phones lol, I just find it abit odd that he let me think he chose the name and didn’t tell me this girl had came up with it if you know what I mean x

Maybe he didn’t mention it because it was just an innocent interaction?

I got a lot of name suggestions and I didn’t tell my fiancé where they came from. We both just took the names and picked the one we like

You liked the name too so when she told him the name it must’ve stood out to him the way it stood out to you to make you both agree on it.

If a male friend suggested the name, would you be feeling this same type of way about it?

I wouldn’t let other people influence the names we choose because I think it should come from us but that’s just my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

No name is ever original. Personally it’s the same thing as getting a book with a list of names or going online and looking up names or even just hearing a random name on the street and liking it.

You had the option to say whether you liked it or whether you didn’t.

If you liked the name before, who it came from shouldn’t make a difference. For all you know she could’ve saw the name online in a list and mentioned it.

It’s not like it’s HER name or something he’s naming the baby after someone else.

You asked if you’re overreacting, and personally I think you are a little bit.
But in the end if you choose to change the name that’s your decision.

okay thankyou

I would feel some type of way even if they were just friends so you’re totally justified. I wouldn’t wanna give credit to another female for naming my daughter with my man. Although with time you will probably get over it and associate new things with her name like herself when u meet her :)

I know that’s how I feel I do like the name but he was sooo dead set on it but it’s made me feel like he’s only liked that name because she picked it because they are close. But even her saying to him “you used the name I chose” It’s just feels abit off to me especially that I wasn’t told. I really think that choosing a name should be between two people and I wouldn’t want another women choosing my daughters name if you know what I mean, but thankyou for your input xx

It would be completely valid for you to open the conversation and see why he chose that name.

If it helps you feel better, instead of confronting him (because using that word seems harsh like there will be an argument) , calmly explain to him you feel a bit upset that he was set on the name and that you feel he liked it simply because she chose it.

Come up with some other names you like on a list and put them with the name he chose, ask him which name he likes. If he says the same one, ask him why he likes the name so much. Make the decision something you guys chose by adding more options and not just HER deciding if you know what I mean?

I wouldn’t directly accuse him of liking the name simply bc she chose it or anything, but adding more options to the decision and ruling them out together as a team can put the power back in your hands and add more security to yourself in this decision

You’re valid to feel upset that you feel she played more of a part in this decision than you did, now is your time to take that power back even if that means not changing the name. You guys could make a huge list and still end up liking that name. But at least then you made that decision a group decision yk?

I don’t see it to be much different to the countless posts on here where women ask for name suggestions 🤷🏻‍♀️
You say you don’t go on his phone to look at his messages, but that’s exactly what you did? So there must be an element of distrust

well i’m just petty and i wouldn’t of liked that one bit tbh😭

Don’t people give suggestions about names all the time? Even if you go on Google and type “names” google is going to give you suggestions. Like.. names always come from somewhere unless you literally make one up in your head. We either see it, hear it or someone suggests it.

same 🤣