Anyone else in the same position - id like another baby partner doesn’t
I just wondered if anyone else is the same as us? We’ve talked it through so much and whilst we both understand each others point of view and reasons we can’t come to an agreement. He really doesn’t want another baby, he’s found it really difficult to adjust to fatherhood and the amount his life has changed. He’s also in his early 40s (10 years older than me) and says he doesn’t have the energy. I thought as time went on he may start to change his mind but he’s still a firm no. I also wouldn’t want to have another baby with someone who wasn’t completely on the same page yet I really want another baby. I feel like our relationship is at a standstill and the only option I really have is to leave? Although I would never say this to him as I feel it would be putting way too much pressure on him.
Any advice?
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I only jad one kid so can't give an option but maybe talk to people who have two.
I have a lot of friends who said that adapting from 0 to 1 was definitely harder than 1 to 2.
The changes on his life that he probably struggled with are probably the same with 1 or 2.
Same situation here. I would like another. Husband struggled to adjust (loves it now but still the adjustment if big). Financially it’s also been so much more expensive than we thought and he wants to be able to give our son a “good” life which with two would be really tough now. He doesn’t feel he would be a good dad with two. So it’s tough but I have come round to the idea and also it’s a two yeses or a no situation really. Leaving doesn’t guarantee you another child or happy relationship. What it does lead to for certain is co-parenting (hopefully amicably), splitting holidays, birthdays, impact on your current child, divorce proceedings (if married) etc so you need to think about what you lose for the hope of another child. If you are other wise happy in your relationship I would seriously reconsider leaving just based on this and maybe look at counselling to help you navigate your emotions because it’s totally normal it be upset.
I was 40 when we had our daughter, and my husband was 47. He doesn't have much energy, but he can change that by eating better, exercising, and trying to get more sleep, your partner can do the same, unless lack of energy is because of an illness or something. It took us a long time to conceive (20 years we were on and off trying). My husband wants another baby but I don't. He thinks im being selfish, but if I was younger, I might have wanted more children. Also, we moved away from family and friends, so we have no support from anyone, I struggle enough as it is. My daughter is my whole world, I couldn't imagine having to share the love I have for her with another baby. My husband would never leave me because of my decision, but I know it's not the same for everyone x
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