Smoking partner/rant kinda long sorry
Hey mamas so my partner smokes for god knows how long, he always says he’s gonna quit but doesn’t even try to like i understand how hard it can be but we have baby a 5 month old baby and like he doesn’t wash his hands doesn’t change his clothes doesn’t wait a few minutes after he’s smokes a cigarette to hold him because even after he’s finished smoking you can smell it coming out of his lungs, he doesn’t understand how much this bothers me i tell him everytime but he just hands him back saying “oh mommy’s angry, she doesn’t want me to hold you”, and honestly it I don’t know what to do anymore i’m worried about my baby and long term effects the amount of smoking he does can affect our baby, he smokes almost a whole 25 pack in a day or 2 also it’s not like he smokes right infront of him although he does sometimes when pushing the pram when we’re out. he smokes in the balcony but out balcony has a 2m high glass wall so it’s not like the smoke has much escape, and sometimes he leaves the door open and all the smoke enters the house, i just don’t know how to get him to understand that he can possibly be harming our child with 2nd and 3rd hand smoke
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Honestly he’d even lie to the midwives every appointment post pregnancy and during that he’d smoke but well away making them think that we don’t even get a whoof of his smoke when we do all the time
You need to set your boundaries. If you’re not comfortable with it, rightfully so, then he needs to make a change.
My partner smoked when I was pregnant and until recently, he finally quit! But he never smoked around my son, only outside when my son wasn’t around. After smoking I’d have him change, wash hands and face and brush his teeth. I was VERY strict with this, and if he forgot and tell him no he can’t hold him until he does so.
Second hand smoke is dangerous for little ones! That’s a fact. Can cause many medical issues.
Quitting smoking is very very difficult, and will only happen if they truly want to quit. So I doubt he’d wanting to quit himself yet, and Is just saying what he thinks you want to hear. But if he’s not willing to quit he can at least keep his child safe and away from it.
I told my partner it’s his choice to destroy his lungs/body with the cigarettes but he’s not going to harm a child that has no choice. Anyway, just be stern!
Show him some of the stats in regards to SIDS and smoking, might make him think a bit more..
It's not nice either way, but even if he changes/washes his hands before picking him up it's a start
I was a smoker pre pregnancy and I know how hard it is, but it's just not worth the risk x
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