Feeling low
I’m feeling really lost tonight, me and my partner were at an event last night where we had a drink, my first time properly drinking for over a year. Between being completely burned out and it being a stressful day, the alcohol brought out the worst in us both and we had a really bad row. He’s staying at his parents tonight then working away for a few nights so I’ll be home with the baby and my dog. It’s put me off drinking alcohol again so I can make that change but I’ve felt so low today, he’s said he’s had enough because of things that got said. I went to my parents briefly and got no sympathy not a hug or anything just got told we don’t do well with alcohol. My best friend is away for a couple of months who I normally see so I feel completely alone. I’ve been crying cause although I can’t fault myself as a mum normally, I feel like I was a mess and I’m embarrassed and feel not good enough. I’m also exhausted before the weeks even begun. I feel like getting through the next few days is going to be so hard, I want to be perfect for my baby and I feel so far from it today and no one to lean on. What are some ways I can help myself over the next few days, I just want to feel relaxed and positive.
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You're baby doesn't need you to be perfect, they just need you to be you x
I’m sure we all have days like this. I certainly have with my partner. We’ve found this time with our son amazing as parents but we at times haven’t dealt with it well as a couple!
Your baby just needs you, no matter what state you’re in. Be kind to yourself xxx
For me, I would not feel happy or relaxed until things were right between me and my partner again. I would call him and just say you love him, I bet he feels rubbish too! Sending hugs x
Sending you hugs xx it certainly is very difficult when you feel like you have no one to lean on. In most of the cases, this happens due to hormones/alcohol /misunderstandings. Just speak to your partner whenever you feel it’s a right time. I really hope you will be able to clear things out xx I had exactly the same yesterday ( without alcohol), said lots of things but we cleared it out the next day. It could all be just hormones. Hopefully your partner will understand.
It is totally normal for you as a couple to struggle after having a new baby. Life changes so much and your dynamic also changes and with the hormones, sleep deprevation etc, it’s a recipe for trouble! The best thing you can do is communicate, see a counsellor if you struggle to do this on your own. With time and better communication, maybe you’ll find things settle down? As for baby, there’s no such thing as a perfect mum. The fact that you care so much is exactly what baby needs, you can only do the best you can that day and start again the next day. If you’re that way inclined, a bit of meditation or yoga may help to just put you in a better frame of mind? Get out of the house, go for a long walk with baby and listen to some music or a podcast? Things that make you happy and maybe distract from how you’re feel for a little bit?
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