Stable, secure moms?
So I've met a couple moms off of here, and I made what I thought was a good, solid connection...she's a nice lady but has so much drama and issues in her life. she told me herself she isn't really able to be there like a friend would. So that got me wondering...are there any moms out there that are similar to myself? For instance moms that are truly happy with their life circumstances (kids, job/duties, partner, etc... that take care of themselves mentally, emotionally and physically...and lastly are down to earth and easy going/not high strung?
Also, I'm posting this incognito because I'm tired of the negative DMs I've been getting too lol
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I’m a secure, stable mom. Happy and content with my partner and situation 🙃🙋🏽♀️ I do work a lot but love to hangout when I’m free.
Awesome! I'll message you!(:
Aye
One question... What do you mean... Be there like a friend would? Can you go into detail please?
she flaked on two different playdates she invited us to-- one time we were almost to her house and she texted saying "sorry not today." And then didn't talk to me for 5 days. Only to plan another playdate and have her just not show up/no text/nothing. So I finally I asked if it was me or something and she told me she has a lot going on with work and her kids and she's having issues with her husband, and doesn't have the time to be there to hangout/socialize "like a friend would." She also told me she's finding it hard to be friends with someone who is "as happy as me." I understand that things happen, it's just I really need someone who shares my energy of positivity against adversity, and can demonstrate reliability and consistency emotionally during interactions. I have a lot to do daily myself and so when I clear time in my kids' and I day...id like it to work out more often than not lol I want to be friends, true friends, and I'm finding that some people just want that in theory.
I am hoping for an intimate friendship, where we can talk, and go out on the town, and feel the spectrum of all the emotions, and have a natural connection too.
I hope your other friend has someone she can talk to through her hard times.
me too. But from what she was saying it doesn't seem so. I tried to be there for her, tried to lift her up and be encouraging but she always just would devolve into negative self talk, and accuse me of judging her/not understanding, and then she said I'm "too happy." I understand shes showing signs of clinic depression. However, I'm not a therapist, so I'm not going to expose myself to that kind of situation.
Having flaky friends is hard. I have my set of dependable friends n my cant always be there friends. Its exhausting to be that friend who gives their time n attention just to not recieve it back. I have very few friends because of this.
I had the same experience I tried to meet up with a mom on here a few times and drove over 2 hours to meet up because she said she has no car and no friends will never do that again
Im happy and content, I’m single but happy and doing things to better my life :)
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