Sexual coercion
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@Stella I have told him like 50 times before hand but still continues to do so...
@Stella and surely you aren't that bad to the point of Sexual assault
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That is not normal behaviour to the point where you feel so pressurised by your own husband that you feel like he verges on sexually assaulting you! Have you thought about seeing a sex therapist? He needs to understand that you have needs too and just because he may be horny 24/7, doesn’t mean that you are to be used as a cum vessel at every opportunity for him. He needs to understand that the more he tries to maul you does not have the desired effect he thinks it does. Perhaps you need more foreplay or teasing to get in the mood. Whatever it is, he needs to understand boundaries and stop trying to bend yours. And also that if he’s that sexually frustrated, to go have a wank. Also just because you are nearing 40 doesn’t mean you should be having less sex. The point is you are not happy and there needs to be joint ground for there to be a happy medium. Has he had his testosterone levels checked lately?
I doubt he will stop she has told him already. Maybe youse need some space after conversation so it might help if youse realise how youse fell in love with each other in the first place and maybe he will have a bit more respect but hope you are okay I know how that feels feel like I have been in a very similar position myself. But if your not happy with him after trying all you can do type thing id suggest maybe getting away from him because you will find someone else that is better for you. You deserve to be treated with respect. Maybe it’s not that deep but I get the sense that it is. Lots of love to you.
@Neena I've had to edit my post to more details please read thank so much for your advice... probably the best I've received he won't do counseling
@Latonia Szafranek thank you as you do too ❤️
I’ve just read your revised post Incog and I change my advice. My advice now is to get out by any means necessary. If he’s SA’d you, there is no going back from that. He is a predator and rapist. You have every right to report him to the police for marital rape. I am so sorry my love, nobody should have to put up with this kind of behaviour. You are worthy of love and kindness, never forget that.💖
@Neena it wasn't rape as such...I can't really say on here don't want to get banned and thank you..he doesn't see it as sa thought 🤔
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@Neena thank you I'll message you when I'm back from school run xxx
Oh yeah definitely not. I completely respect boundaries
No means no! Even if you said yes and revoked it- still no!! If you are not enthusiastically consenting it is absolutely abuse. Speaking from experience it gets worse as time goes on. If he won’t go to therapy as you’ve said, I’d be prepping to get out.
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@Mel those who get it, get it but as I've been aware this is abuse and not acceptable. And I've spoken to woman's aid and this is 100% abuse...I couldn't give 2 sh!ts about other people man not wanting to touch them...I've already stated no
I think I’m your husband 😅😂 honestly I’m sorry u feel this way. Maybe just talk to him openly. I know when my husband told me he feels pressured about it I tried to control myself about it. So maybe if he understands how u feel on this topic and if you make it clear what the reason is, he will understand and be able to put less pressure in u hopefully.