Loss in love and emotion

I know many will tell you not to make permanent decisions in a temporary hormones-wired situation. And they will be right. Not the best time to act on your instincts. However, I do believe that pregnancy is the time we reinvent ourselves and it allows us to see our real fears, desires, etc. hold on to that though, to what you feel and start questioning. See how it evolves through time (constantly meaning not over the 40 weeks of pregnancy but comparing pre-pregnancy, pregnancy and post-pregnancy feelings). Maybe you'll realize you need to be on your own. Maybe him as a father will make you reconsider and you'll discover other good feelings.
You are pregnant, it's natural that you don't love him like before. He is now just someone else's son, you are now becoming a mother with dominant thoughts that only help you bond with your body and your baby. Your focus changes and I'd advise to stop trying to love him. Just be true to you, don't force it, but don't make sudden moves either. Imho. Maybe I'm wrong...

@Elena I'm just really struggling trying to control my emotions like when I'm not with him I find every little reason to dislike or pick at him but when I'm with him nothing else matters and I do love him. On the weekend he made the comment that 'I need him' and now I feel like I have to prove him wrong that I don't need him I chose him because I wanted him but now I'm trying to find a way to show him that I don't need him and my emotions are all over the place.. I've vented to my mum and my mum has even said that she can see him trying to improve for me and become a better person and I know he is but it's still in my mind that I have to prove him wrong..

When my ex used to tell me "what would you do without me, you need me" I always turned it into a joke "yes, I need you to be more supportive, understanding and more of a man in general" lol again, he is now my ex... So humour only saved us for so long. Honestly, I think the best way is to be yourself. If he has an issue with your critique and comments, he should speak up. But if he doesn't complain and you have moments of happiness together just two of you, it's all good. I have a sharp tongue myself and often I would be very critical, but that's just me and it's not intentional. I'm sometimes just socially stupid, not mean, that's why I guess my boyfriend doesn't even complain, just laughs at it or acts like "the bigger person". I feel like we try to be that fictional "good human" and you are just as critical of yourself like you are critical of him. You are going through tremendous change, becoming a mother, it's ok not to be sweet and perfect. It's ok not to control yourself.

Back to the "you need me", I would again be 100 percent authentic. You have to tell him that being paternalistic and assuming your dependence just because you will give birth to his child is ridiculous. That you had a happy past and your common memories and feelings are the reasons why you both chose to be with each other, by mutual conscious choice and not because you as a woman are blessed with him, even if you appreciate him deeply. I would say all that and finish with "when you phrase it like that, not like we are both each other's choice, I hear it as a challenge to show you that you are wrong. And there is no way back to that, isn't there? Let's be more human and don't throw this kind of devaluing words. I'm sure you are happy to be with a woman who chose you. I hope you will remain more valuable than any other life paths I could have chosen instead."

Sorry that was a lot. But I can really relate to you. It sounds like you don't allow yourself to be firm when you want and you don't allow yourself to be emotional either. All this frustration is just heavy to carry with you, for sure. Cut yourself some slack when you want to be moody, those who know you and love you will understand. But when you feel that your ego as a woman is challenged, when you are hurt enough not to like or be able to live with your emotional reaction, don't ignore it and firmly address it (even at the expense of appearing agressive) instead of keeping it inside and still build passive agression. Do what's right for you and may it lead to the truth, either you are loved, accepted and understood, or you'll both realize you are wasting your time with each other. Again, my humble opinion, may sound radical or just be wrong

Hey there, I know everyone’s situation and experience is completely different but reading this reminded me of my pregnancy… Just thought I’d comment that I had really negative feelings toward my partner when I was pregnant, he’s a good guy but the smallest thing would make me think I wanted to split up and for him to move out… i felt almost detached from him or something, I must have told him to move out every other weekend! The positive feelings I had towards him disappeared when I was pregnant. And it all felt very real. However…Those feelings diminished pretty much as soon as our wee one was born and now I feel back to normal and pretty guilty about it all!