Needing advice
Long story short. My baby’s dad just got out of jail for domestic violence. Which left me alone with our 6month old. He got out 2 weeks ago and I am so badly trying to work things out for our son’s sake. However the other night I let him bathe our baby for the first time. I walked in the bathroom to check on my baby and him and caught his dad rubbing my baby’s private parts. And not just a simple rub. Now I know I wash my baby and change his diapers. But I never touch him with my bare hands and definitely not in the way his father was touching him. I yelled and asked why he touched my son like that and he said it was normal. So today he asked me for help with his phone and in his search history on google I found him searching for things like pedofilia and pornography. But not just simple pornography. It was people messing with animals. I am disgusted. I kicked him out but now he is messaging me all kinds of crazy abusive messages. I really just don’t know. He says he didn’t search those things but I don’t know if I should believe him.
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You definitely should not believe him. Is there any way you can get the proof off of his phone or at least a screenshot of the message where he said he didn’t look them up even though they were there? Go straight to the police with any proof you have about the pedophilia searches and report what he did to your son as well. I would screenshot the threatening messages for the police as well. You can get an emergency protective order for yourself and your child and when you go to court for the protective order they can extend it to up to a year. Save up for a lawyer and get his rights terminated mama. I’m so so sorry.
He has no rights because he was in jail when he was born because he beat me up bad. But I appreciate it. And yes I have the pictures of the things he searched. And I will be going tomorrow. Thank you so much
I’m so glad he doesn’t have rights. That’s gonna make this process much smoother for you. Good luck tomorrow💜 and from one DV survivor to another, I am proud of you for getting out.
I wouldn't let him nowhere near your baby or you and he needs to be reported as he has basically sexually assaulted your child and needs to be back in prison, I'm sorry but if any of my children's fathers touched my children like that and I found that in thier search history they would not be living, not just your child you need to protect its all the other children
I completely agree. Police came and left. They talked to all my kids and they opened a cps case. So its in their hands now.
thank you sweet lady! I appreciate your kind words. My babies deserve better. Thats my driving force
@Natasha you've done the right thing by your children and you hun, hope your ok it couldn't of been an easy thing to do regardless of the situation x
honestly I am a straight mess. I chose him for so long my world was him. And when he got locked up I seriously thought jail would change him but it didn’t. So I just feel stupid. Hes drinking living it up while I am here so messed up. How I didn’t see this is what messes me up/ i should have sensed something knowing what I went through as a child. But my babies know mama has them. And I hope he pays for all this. I wish nothing but the worst for him. Pure hate I have for him right now. He knew I was weak and he used that to his advantage
Girl you know the answer to this already! Come on now! Time to protect that baby and be strong. Enough is enough.
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