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If you don’t trust him, trust that gut feeling. It’s 100% okay for you to wait until you do trust him. Maybe opening the conversation will help in the long run.

Always trust the gut feeling 💯. It's OK not to feel comfortable with it until you trust him

If you are going through the courts, you would have to have reasonable grounds to request supervised visits with baby. If this just between you guys, then follow your gut. However, if you will eventually end up in a legal custody battle, ensure you do not deny access/visits with the child. That could be used against you. Try to work out a schedule where you are present during the visits and maybe you can build his trust with the baby. Unless it's a toxic situation, then you might need to have a more legal agreement sooner rather than later. Good luck. 🫶

The thing is that he wants me to To drop off my nineteen month old that he hasn't seen him since he was five months old And As son a things Don't go his way. He likes to bring up court. So I don't know how I could have trusting somebody who does I don't mind my son. Having a relationship with his father but if he's gonna deny it and say that The baby's better off with me than him. I don't know what to do. I'm so confused on everything

Trust your gut, and make it clear that baby doesn’t KNOW him and needs to be introduced if he’s going to have visits at all. No unsupervised visits until you and baby are comfy. But if he goes to the courts this can bite you — so try to see a family legal aid or lawyer if you can to have someone on YOUR side

Yes that What I'm worried about.
No matter what I say to him if nothing goes his way. He's gonna the court or he's gonna try to take me to court

@Natasha Aaliyah you're not bothering me. But I don't understand what you mean.

Well, that is tough. He hasn't seen your son in a year. He is a stranger to him. You can see if your ex will agree to a visit with you present. Your son needs to be comfortable around him too. You can't just leave a 19 month old alone with a person they don't know. But if you are present it will make your son feel more comfortable. Communication should be in writing via email or text. That way, you can have records of your communication if things do go to court. That way, there is no, "he said she said."

Well I don’t think theres a reason you can’t take your son with you to take a DNA test. (I think that’s what you meant?) or is it something else?
If you can’t take your son could you have another family member you trust to be in the home also? Never leave a child with someone you don’t trust.

And what’s he going to take you to court for? He hasn’t even been around and wants a test? Pshhh call his bluff

He wants a dna test I don't feel safe with him going because he doesn't know him. And if I want to stay, he's not gonna allow that. He wants to have his son alone and I don't trust that right now. My son needs to feel safe but if I don't do what the baby daddy wants me to. He's gonna take me 4 fifty fifty custody

Trust your gut say no to leaving your son with a stranger

Like I said before, make sure all your communication is in writing. That way, they will see you were willing to compromise. He could have visits with you present. If he isn't willing to spend time with his son with you present then clearly he doesn't really want to spend time with him. He is being unreasonable to think he can just show up a year later and expect to just get alone time with a toddler who doesn't know him.