Giving Birth Alone?
I’m currently trying to decide if I want to go through the process of labor alone. The father lives in another state and won’t be there (for many reasons) and the only other person I have is my mom. The problem is that me and my mom haven’t had the best relationship for many years. She has been very supportive of my unplanned pregnancy and I appreciate it so much. It’s just that every time I’m around her she is very controlling and causes me more stress than anything. I’m worried that if she is there it will just make things worse.
My question is have any of you given birth alone without a support person? If so what was it like?
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Maybe you should get a doula. Looking back, I would not have been able to do it by myself
I would but unfortunately I just moved to a state where I cannot find one for the life of me. At least none that are covered by insurance and I can’t afford one out of pocket.
Maybe you can check if your hospital has a doula program? My hospital has very affordable doulas.
I need a tab bit more information so I can give you the best advice, will the dad be there maybe a day after the birth? Or he won’t be there at all?
unfortunately the hospital I’ll be going to doesn’t offer it. The closest hospital that does is almost a 50 min drive
he won’t be there at all. He has chosen to not be involved
I did it alone and I regretted it! The midwife’s were just in and out the whole time and definitely weren’t support for me! I still don’t know who I would when chosen to have with me if I had my time again but I definitely would have had someone (not my mum lol)
well beautiful, as i who was in your same shoes pretty much I’d say just do it alone love. be there for yourself! be strong, in the world you gotta be stronger than everyone around you in actuality. w your mom being the way she is she might have programmed you to need someone, to need someone there regardless of any situation. My mom was the same girl just negative like not wanting my mom there really froze me into time because that’s the one person I thought would be there but Giving birth isn’t by yourself anyways the nurses will be there encouraging you with genuine joy, but when you get to hold your baby and the moment you are alone with your child you will reflect, that reflect time is okay so he wasn’t there for this so I’ll just do it myself and that kind of motivation is all you need for the rest of your life! you got this! 💗 A beautiful strong independent single mother is a true jem and someone will see that even if the father didn’t 💗
I got a doula for a very similar reason my man was out of town and I couldn't stand the idea of my mom being there. Honestly it was so worth it and having my doula and midwife there with me was so perfect.
Definitely try and get a midwife they are awesome support. U don’t want to stress at all delivering. It’s actually dangerous for u both. She can always visit after
Alone!!!! Nurses are there to help you. You can do it! Or bring a friend. Don't bring anyone that stresses you out it can cause your labor to stall. Not worth it
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