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Just got home from a d&e of my 17 week old baby girl. I had placental abruption due to aggressive bleeding from a subchorionic hemorrhage and transfusion which exasperated the issue - I was found with 1L of blood/clots in my uterus. I had the doctors take prints of my baby’s hands and feet and I just about lost it. So small, baby girl was our best shot. Our highest graded embryo from IVF and was a sure thing. My body just couldn’t do it for her.

Anyone else have a loss at 17 weeks and have a d&e and can speak to what I should expect and when I can start trying again? I refuse to do IVF at this point due to how traumatic this was.

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So sorry for your loss… I’ve never carried a miscarriage that long (I’ve had 3) but wanted to share my condolences…. Pray you get through this stronger 🫂

So sorry for your loss. I had a loss just shy of 17 weeks in 2021. I was admitted and induced. It was very traumatic as I was completely alone due to having other kids and still somewhat in covid protocols.

I only had a couple weeks of bleeding (maybe half as long as full term). I got pregnant on my first post loss cycle around 9 weeks later.

I am so sorry for your loss. Words never seem to be quite enough. I can’t say I know anything about ivf but I’m praying for you and wishing you well ✨

I’ve just had a D&A last week for my 10 weeks tiny baby. It was an IVF pregnancy too. And as in your situation, it was our second best embryo whilst we have only one left. I could only have one or two eggs per cycle, so we could only have three embryos in total. This means that I should start getting myself accustomed to the idea that there’s a big chance that I can’t be a mom ever.

I totally feel you. This feeling of grief, loss, blaming myself, emptiness, anger… I have no idea when it will all pass. But I can only say that you’re not alone. I send my hugs and prayers 🙏

I had a silent miscarriage last March. She was 20 weeks. I went back to the fertility doctor in May/June. I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant with a boy. I’m 40 yrs old

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Anyone else up feeding their Bebe?

As above. Trying so hard to keep my eyes open

Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Is this normal??

I’m 29 weeks pregnant and having really aching legs and they’re all lumpy and swollen. Above the knee and behind the knee . Should I be worried ? My legs have never looked like this up until a few days ago. ??

Anyone else experiencing this?

Gave birth (vagina) 5 days ago and yesterday morning and this morning getting lot of pain in my right bottom side and lower back

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago