I need to vent
I'm 32 weeks I'm in so much pain it hurts to move and breathe I tried doing the dishes and cleaning the house I couldn't I was only able to put 5 minutes in. We have to Doordarsh every day to make money for dinner and I didn't feel like I could do it today I told my fiance that and he said well I worked all day and I don't want to so I had to. So I asked if he could do dinner because I just didn't feel like I could do it and he got mad and said he would do it but halfway through he decided he didn't want to do it so I had to finish it I feel like when it comes to any household tasks I have to do I'm just scared when we have our daughter that I'm gonna feel alone, have to do all it by myself
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Awww I'm sorry you're going through this :( men can be big babies sometimes it's annoying.
I feel the same way you do physically. Do you have a parent or friend that can stop by to help you out sometimes?
Thank you, no sadly I don't I moved to South Carolina, 3 hours away from everyone I know to be with my fiance so i only have him
Hey girly, so I think this is the most important time of your life where you have to be strong. I believe sitting down with your fiancé about these things is appropriate at this time so you can prepare yourself mentally for what’s to come. Many relationships fail due to the lack of involvement of the man because he doesn’t actually know what’s going on with you, emotionally, physically, mentally, or even spiritually. This is your baby, you worked hard for that baby and you should enjoy your pregnancy. If he can’t understand that you are literally carrying an entire person that is going to cause you pain and suffering, then you need to prepare yourself now. I’m not being negative at all, I’m being realistic because depression can creep up on you from now until after the baby. It all depends on how you see it all.
@Angel thank you I really appreciate it I have tried to talk to him, and he says I'm being overly emotional and gets mad at me for "exploding" I feel he doesn't listen to me when I try to share my feelings about anything so I yell and I have tried talking to him about a schedule for when we have the baby and he keeps putting it off and says can we wait till later and I keep trying to tell him that we don't have much longer till we have her I'm just not sure what to do because I want to be with him but I also don't want hurt worse because I stay with him
I hope this man steps up for you! The further along in pregnancy the harder things seem to be, even daily tasks. You're the one growing the baby you need support and comfort in knowing you have that... just make sure you put yourself and baby first. Maybe he can step up tho. I hope so for you guys.Just don't have that talk too many times if it isnt getting thru, and trust your gut.
I had a plan at first with my baby's dad.. he said which nights he would step up to feed,stay upwith bb, help with chores, what he could do ect... he also was really honest about what he "couldnt" /wouldn't do (no dirty diaper changes, he still "needed" to go out on weekends, and have occasional nights to himself/with the dog, he would need to always have someone around and never have the baby alone, the list goes on..) Plus I just know him as a person and a lot of things he said never actually happened so it was like still up in the air even if he said it. Actions over words. Love him still, but I left a few months in.
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