If you were 1 and done, what were your reasons?

I’ve had such a hard time growing our family. We had 2 early miscarriages and then I recently went through pre-term labor at 17 weeks and lost our miracle baby. Our almost 3 year old son was incredibly easy to conceive on the first try. We’re now looking at 2 years trying to conceive our second.

I’ve always to wanted at least 2 kids (maybe 3) but im starting to question my body’s ability to be pregnant and am wondering if this means I’ll be 1 and done.

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I’m turning 37 this winter and while my pregnancy was healthy and uncomplicated I just didn’t enjoy it. I also am so satisfied to devote all my love and parenting energy to just my four year old, and if she one day has a dream of attending a pricey out of state college it could actually be possible! More budget to go around. One baby only baby! I have a sibling, by spouse has 3, but we both know lots of happy onlies! Whatever you decide ❤️

I am 33 and we are one and done! Hubby has already gotten his vasectomy!

I'm an only child and loved it. I had never been convinced I was going to have more than one from the beginning. Once pregnant I found I really didn't care for pregnancy, even though I had a relatively easy pregnancy LOL then at 6 weeks pp, PPD and ppa hit like a ton of bricks. At 6 months pp, I without a doubt knew we would be one and done because I didn't want to risk going through all the pp stuff again and my LO being older and bearing witness to it.

I say all of this because this was the right decision for me. I know there are women that have no fear about having seconds and thirds and have way more traumatic birth stories or pp stories than I do. At the end of the day it is all about what is right for you and your family 💗

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Can baby mamas be friends?

My son has an older brother from his biodad. Biodad has never had contact with my son. One thing lead to another though and the other child's mother and I got in contact and are planning a meeting for the boys. Biodad has no idea any of this has happened. Biodad also hasnt had contact with the other child in about 2 years. Just thoughts, opinions, anyone been through something similar?
Edit-Thank you all! Have definitely been feeling somewhat weird about it because we never met before but now know it can be a good thing definitely helps. I can't wait for them to meet. My son has been asking for a brother and I can now happily tell him he has one. That just happens to be 13. Im sorry for yall that fight/have issues with the other baby mamas. Sadly some women rather be stuck on the men, when the kid is the one who really matters. They're the ones that end up getting hurt and missing out.

Is it normal to test positive still? (Wouldn't usually do one)

Not the best pic and clearer in person. Is this normal? I've not had any sex since having my LO but I've had strong cravings, sense of smell is strong and my hair still hasnt started to fall out. Im 7 weeks pp so 🤷‍♀️ I wouldnt normally bother testing but with those symptoms that I never really have its like whats going on. Cravings for something very specific too and can only get from KFC now 😩 so its annoying

Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.

Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

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Please please someone clarify if this test is positive. Im pretty sure it is but Im in disbelief at the minute I haven’t ovulated in 8 months. I feel like crying lol. When is the best time to have sex?

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I know this group is for pregnancy test but just want to double check this ovulation test is positive. I haven’t had a positive ovulation test in months and months I think Im gonna cry. When is best to have sex after a positive ovulation test and how likely is it to get pregnant?

If you were 1 and done, what were your reasons?

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