Feeling down

Has anyone gone or going through the same? How are you fighting?

Don’t be too hard on yourself it’s so tough being a mum but it may be worth speaking to your dr to get some help with how your feeling x

Honestly you're not alone in how you're feeling being a mum us the hardest thing I've ever done, it's so much tougher than I ever thought it would be. I know it doesn't help but just think this won't last forever, every day is a day closer to her being more settled. You're doing your best and that's all you can do, take it day by day. I.know the road ahead seems really tough, but you will look back one dsy and think, ' I did it' Sending a big hug, xx

My 13 week old is the same. It is hard and people keep saying it will get better and it’s hard to see that far ahead but it will. Is your baby breast fed or formula? I am going to combi feed from the weekend because I am running out of other alternatives and am going to end up mentally unwell myself. Hope you get to the bottom of why they are crying I found out last week he has tongue tie. So that was operated on. Hoping for some improvements in the coming days or weeks as he has awful wind, silent reflux and runny green poo

It is hard, I feel you 🫂 it’s hard to handle it all. Ask for advice from your health visitor, maybe she can advise something that could help. Sending hugs and love your way. ❤️xxx

Firstly, well done Mum for lasting 12 weeks of your little one screaming and bless them. Hope they feel better soon. No judgement here just praise, you've done so well and oh my god when they pull hair or pinch your face, especially when you're tired it hurts so much. It's ok to wear earphones of calming music when she is screaming at you , but probably not whilst she is sleeping so you can keep an eye out. It's ok to take a break, and leave her safely in a cot as an example whilst you get away for a few mins. It's ok to let your partner or perhaps parent take her for a bit so you can have some downtime. It's ok if something like a sensory video (hey bear on YouTube) helps her calm down. Do what you need to,to survive you're important too xx

Thank you guys for your kind words. I understand is a phase or I hope it is and I will enjoy being her mum more. I just feel like by now I would of have got somewhere. She is formula fed as we had issues breastfeeding so I had to stop. I feel like my partner only sees her screaming in the evening I can't even imagine what he must feel as he has mention a few times that she doesn't like him in a not joking but joking way if that makes sense. Being a mum is definitely the hardest thing anyone does and I think maybe seeing other mums and babies doing much better doesn't help. I know they say to not compare but is hard not to. I wish I could hang around with her, take her places but it is impossible. My parents don't live in this country and we moved to a different area while I was pregnant so I don't know anyone but another couple. Just feels like the world is crashing on me today, I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow but yeah 🤷🏽‍♀️

I can't imagine it, mine has been similar this last week or so where he's been poorly and that's been hard enough. Once I know he's definitely fed and has a clean nappy I pop him in the carrier, pop in some wireless headphones and wander around my house either listening to music or watching Netflix on my phone. There's something quite calming about accepting it and getting on with my life while also knowing my baby has the closeness he needs. Little bum pats to help calm him and let him know I'm still here, headphones to stop me going loopy with the crying. Still a free hand for coffee and snacks.

@Eve makes sense. I used to use the carrier everyday not sure why I stopped maybe it's time to pick it up back. It is awful when they just cry isn't....I will take the idea of the headphones as long as she is okay then I need to make sure I'm okay and relax as well

Be less harsh on yourself, it sounds like a lot of work. Is she breastfed or formula fed? I am asking because I ebf for the first 4 weeks and my son was exactly like that, constantly crying, screaming and being hard to comfort unless he was on my breast. When we started formula he changed so much, so turned out he was just hungry

My son was like this for probably about the first 6-8 weeks and it was draining. Constant crying all day. I couldn’t even go for a little walk as he would just scream in the buggy. Also hated the car so spent most of that time just indoors where he would only stop crying if being held. We ended up trying a cranial osteopath. We had four sessions. I don’t know if it was that that helped or just that he grew out of it but it might be something for you to consider trying x