Should I?
I’ve kind of suppressed some traumatic things that happened to me and I’ve recently remembered the name of my rapist from high school, looked him on Facebook and found him. He’s never acknowledged it and I never told anyone. I feel an urge to Messege him saying something. But idk what I’d say. Is this a horrible idea or no?
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Do not message him tell the police messaging him will just set ur trauma off
It might , I just felt like maybe it could give me some kind of closure. No use of telling police they can’t do anything
It won't give you closure.. because you'll be waiting to see if he's read it, then what are you going to do when he replies.. it's a horrible loop to get into. You need to work through your trauma, but one thing you can do which has helped myself. Is write everything down in a letter that you want to say to him, then burn it. :)
You have no control over his response, instead of giving closure, what he might say may reinforce your trauma.
Protect yourself from this person, do not contact them and seek closure in the safety of therapy.
I say this having similar experiences and having mostly manage to get myself through them with therapy.
Don't message him! Go to therapy to heal those horrible moments.
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