Sleep regression
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Us. It's been months. Nothing helps. I'm actually going to call the health visitors as soon as they start taking calls this morning but I highly doubt that they will help. I just want it to be on our records in case he is assessed for neurodivergency in the future.
@Jess its been about 3-4 weeks the night waking from 1am has been about 1 week 😭 what did you do when they were waking he doesnt even want comfort to go back to sleep!!
@Elif its awful isn't it, everyone keeps saying it will pass but im not sure anymore 😭 he wont even let me comfort him! He just wants to go downstairs!!
Is he still having a nap? And if so, have you tried capping it? Sometimes split nights can happen when they’re having too much day sleep. Can definitely just be developmental though and I appreciate it’s so rough 😵💫 we had a little party last night too. I always try and keep him in his room as I don’t want him thinking if he wakes up that we’ll just go downstairs as that can end up reinforcing the wake. We have a few quieter toys (cars, puzzles, crayons) and books in his room that he can play with and will often put on some lullabies or calm music. Essentially you want to keep that time he’s awake in the night as calm and boring as possible. I try to remind myself that if I’m not calm, I have no chance of calming him (easier said than done, I know!) so by all means step out of the room if you need a few moments. I usually just sit in there with him and will read or play sudoku on my phone 🤪
If he’s starting to look tired again, I’ll try to settle him but I don’t fight him on it. If he’s wanting to get down to play, I let him and try again in 10-15 mins. Ultimately, it’s just not worth fighting them to sleep if they’re wide awake as it just ends up being frustrating for you which makes it harder to get them back to sleep 🫠 Hope it passes soon for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼 x
@Jess i did try capping his nap, but he got so overtired it ended badly🤣 i will try again maybe! How much daytime sleep is your lo having? I know theres no point getting angry but the sleep deprivation through the day is real 🙃😭
@Robyn Ah shit 😩 My little boy is a couple months younger and was having 2hrs (still would to be fair) but I’ve capped it to 1.5hrs because bedtime is a nightmare otherwise! I’ve got a feeling I’ll need to drop it to an hour before much longer. Oh, I know 🫠 trust me, the night rage is real as is the feeling very sorry for yourself the next day. I’m like a wounded puppy today haha 🙈 took me bloody ages to fall asleep after his little party so I’m running on like 4 hours sleep today 🥴 x
@Jess i know what you mean the plan goes out the window in the middle of the night 🤣 is your little one still having naps?x
@Robyn it's horrible. We tried no naps, 5-10 minute naps (which worked for a little while until it didn't), long naps. Literally whatever we do we end up with split nights or very short nights. He sleeps about 6.30 hours which means I get 5 hours of sleep everyday. If I sacrifice my daily baths/showers I could sleep for 6 hours I guess. It's depressing.
My LG is just such a broken sleeper 🙃 It's awful. She's my 2nd and I did it all with my first and he literally started doing full nights at maybe 5... but he still wakes now adleast once a night and he's age 7. I think unfortunately ita super shit but I genuinely think at the 3 year mark it settles alot better Most of their leaps and big regressions have passed and starting school with no naps helps alot. My LG doesn't even nap in the day she hasn't since about 25 months. And still a horrid sleeper. We have learnt not leaving the room is key. And actually I put one ear pod in a d listen to calming music just to get me to survive it 😀
Ouch, that sounds not ideal. No suggestions I'm afraid however he now may associate screaming in the night with play time. I appreciate everyone parents differently but whatever approach you take to curbing it be consistent.