Toddler hits newborn

I remember learning that even if the toddler laughs or even spews venomous words, they still don't actually know what they're saying and they don't mean it, even if it looks like the literal opposite. I learned from a social worker w 30 years of experience in handling toddler tantrums and less than ideal behavior, when things like this happen, don't let it bother you one bit, don't be afraid, don't be worried, don't be concerned, don't feel scared etc instead that the parents should think "I have a really good kid that's having a difficult time" then try to muster up all the COMPASSION you possibly can, this isn't a time for lecturing or teaching them anything because they aren't going to receive it. Instead, remain calm, feel confident and change the scenario/ change the topic

If you feel like correcting, say something simple like "mommy is going to be your helper, my job is to keep you safe and I'm going to move your baby brother to a different spot so he doesn't get hit" and then change the situation

You change the situation by moving on to the next thing you both want to do or have to do

But the key is to not be distressed in any way shape or form because that's contagious and the toddler feeds off that emotion from you and becomes more dysregulated. All this I learned from the social worker

Thank you so much! Today he actually hit the baby so hard which is why I lost it bc I feel he hasn’t learned anything from our previous attempts at telling him no. But this helps a lot 🥰

Aww of course I'm so glad it helped you, I actually learned this earlier this week when my toddler was burning me out because of her picky eating! I was starting to get so anxious about how much nutrition she's actually recovering etc but then I learned this and I've been more relaxed and calm around her and sure enough she eats so much better! Congratulations on your newborn! I'm going to have my second baby on my 39th week of pregnancy between the last week of February and first week of March 🥰

I would try to move him from baby. If he hits go bring him to his room and do time out or physically move him away from baby and then you pick baby up. Toddler lost privileges to be held or something like that. That’s what we do when my toddler hits us. We put him on the ground or walk away or put I. His room

I have always been told to tell them what they can hit As hitting is a toddler reflex So can you redirect ‘ if you feel you would like to hit something please hit this … and show them where they can hit ‘

Could it be that he’s with his grandparents, aunties and uncles most of the time and wants his mamma? Jealous of the baby? Can you carve out any time to spend with just the two of you together?