Why Am I NOT Doing The Right Thing?

My FWB is my boss. It’s been going on and off for years but most recently almost two years straight. I know he screws around but his toxic ex will be out of one year alcohol rehab from out of state in February. I saw text messages from the two of them and it was sexting. I caught him in a slip up last night and I KNOW he will seeing her in May. I told him I’m not okay with this. He insisted that she is not coming. I know she still loves him and vice versa even though he has told me the same. When I try to distance myself from him mentally my heart hurts. He says the same thing about it. We are completely fine with separating our relationship status from work. We’ve never had any problems. My issue is WHY do I keep getting with him knowing my heart will break soon. I have friended her on FB ( keep enemies close ) to get an idea of when this is really happening. She will relapse because he is a heavy drinker. But that’s not the point. In the texts he even offered to pay for her vacation when I can hardly get a buck from him for the groceries I buy for his apartment. I really don’t want him to see ANYONE else but our relationship is forbidden at work so nobody knows. Why am I allowing myself to be in a position that restricts me from finding my real love? Why am I allowing a TOXIC relationship to ruin my environment? I’m much better than this. Toxic Traits: 1. Alcoholic 2. Work together 3. Doesn’t help me with money 4. Lies 5. Cheats ( yes I know what FWB means but I want more). 6. Relationship has no future 7. Selfish 8. And too many more ……..

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Move on. There’s someone else out there. Maybe consider looking for a new job too? It’s hard to separate FWB with a relationship bc it’s supposed to be like a hook up no feelings but he’s like manipulating you to have you all to himself. You want a relationship not fwb

Honey let him go. You deserve something better. It seems you are looking for a relationship and he wants a hookup only. You are wanting wine from a water bottle. He isn’t going to give you what you desire. I know it will hurt but it will go away verses you being hurt everyday by not getting what your need from him.

Merissa we have worked together for over 20 years. I’m not leaving my job. But I have expressed to him that our friendship is more important than our so called relationship. I hope remembering this will help me move on.

In the nicest possible way, you need to get some self respect. This man is using you and you deserve so much better.

That’s not a fwb if he can’t give them dollars up. I am sorry but in my old situations I never had money issues and didn’t even have to give no sugar at that.

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