Curious to see what you think (TMI) 😅

Did he explain why he was “scarred” from it?

@Tierra I asked him that, and he said it's because it happened every single time , she would always ask him to go down on her

I think it’s great that he has communicated his feelings and reasons, not a lot of men do.
The next step may be some form of sex therapy to see if that can help him move on from it if oral sex is important for you in the relationship. Best of luck ❤️

I would clarify if when he says scarred if he means she ruined it or if he means it’s genuinely traumatizing/disturbing to him. If it’s just that she ruined it by being a strong association then maybe you guys could work on incorporating it in different fun ways so he doesn’t think of her but instead thinks of you and therefore it can be a shared enjoyable experience. But if he is actually deeply bothered by it and uncomfortable then you don’t want to force him but as someone mentioned a therapist could help if it’s important to you.

@Aimee yes that's true he definitely has been open as to why he just doesn't like it. He wouldn't do sex therapy tho that's for sure he's not up for anything like that, he did say he'll get better but now I'm just feel weird about it like I don't really feel like I want him down there now I feel bad for some reason 😅 it's not that it's important or not important but sometimes I feel like maybe I'm missing out on that side of a sexual relationship? Do you know what I mean? Thank you for your comment 🥰

@Alexis yeah so he and her had a troubled relationship she literally ruined him, I know that as we've spoken about it before years ago. I mean it's been 8 years weve been together now so he's healed but yeah definitely won't force him and that's why the whole time we've been together he's never gone down there , a few times but not a lot. He won't do therapy he's just not that type of person xx I was concerned when he said scarred by it

@Elizabeth oh god sores in his throat! That does sound awful! 😫 xx

I think I give my husband head every time we do it and he never gives me any but I just don’t even want to have that weird conversation. So I solute u for speaking up. I would feel weird just like u so I don’t think you are weird. What r u gonna do?

@Jackie, thank you for your comment 🥰💓 yeah literally the same here! I go down on him a lot, which ya know isn't an issue! But yeah it does nag on my brain abit as to why he never goes down on me so I just had to bring it up with him, good to know I'm not the only one who'd feel weird about it tho! I don't really know what I'm gonna do, he's obviously a big issue for him cause of his past and I've gotta be understanding to that and tbh maybe head isn't this massive thing to me anyway but I'll just have to see I suppose xx

Absolutely and you’re allowed to feel the way you do, it’s okay to feel upset/weird about it. Could you maybe do it in small amounts? Like he does it for like a few seconds to start things off then switches to something else like toys? To kind of build it back up if you know what I mean.
Also have you considered doing 69? That way, he’ll be distracted by what you’re doing to him at the same time and then it may build up a more positive association with it? Xx

I personally think this is an unfair balance especially considering statistically speaking majority of women do not get off from penetration alone.
Im glad he shared it with you but I guess it’s a little odd to me that yes scarred just from doing it daily?