Husband trying to make me feel guilty for how baby naps
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Yes my Bub contact naps during the day and even at night it can be a struggle putting Bub down in the crib. You’re doing nothing wrong, unless it’s a bad thing to meet your helpless baby’s needs. Seriously, husbands can be such dickheads. Sorry you’re dealing with this, it’s stressful enough being a mum. Sending hugs.
People who compare babies (whether a that’s husbands, parents, in-laws) are awful in general. Every baby is different, you even see differences within siblings raised under the same roof! Don’t fee bad, he’s in the wrong. Some babies can sleep during a metaphoric tornado, some need motion of a pram/car, some need silence and their mothers arms. You never know what you’re going to get! So what if his sisters baby slept in the pram?! I bet there’s other stuff that your baby can do that her can’t. Wait till there’s other stuff to compare - crawling, walking, talking, solids. It’s endless.
@Naomi yes I do all the feeds, all the night wakes and all naps, unless I need to go out at the time he will put her in the stroller to give ger a nap but otherwise it's all me. How long had you been trying to get him down for the first nap of the day before he started doing it?
@Cece yes husbands can be such dickheads! Thanks for your kind words
@Shinasa thankyou! Every baby is different and it's a terrible habit to get into, comparing kids. Our baby can do things his sisters can't do and my in laws always comment on it to me. I think that could be where he gets the bad habit from. Not good.
I have only started trying to put him down again these last 2 weeks. I give it max three times to try to put him down before I give up, unless he wakes up crying or takes more than a few minutes to get back to sleep, in which case I just contact nap. He's still not going down consistently but definitely progress from never 😅
If you are the one dealing with the consequences of night wakes you should be the one calling the shots on how baby naps during the day!! It's not even like you are asking him to go sit in the car to do the contact naps! My son is still contact napping but trying to put him down for the first nap of the day, after I get him to sleep- has been successful most of the time the last week. But sometimes I have to safe the nap and go back go contact nap. My son had an issue with in laws to. I think maybe he can tell im more anxious around them. What worked for me was holding my son right next to my father-in-law for like 30 minutes and then handing him over. I stayed right next to him for 5 minutes smiling and telling baby how amazing he was. Then I was able to walk away and eat with no problems.