Breaking point

I allowed my step kids mother move in with my husband and I because she had no where to go, no where. After all the bullshit she’s ever said and done. I said okay, for the kids, better they are here than somewhere not safe. It’s been a few months and I can’t do it anymore. She’s ungrateful, a liar, clearly not doing what she needs to get on her feet. I told my husband that she needs to go and now I made to feel like the bad guy cause he’s worried about the kids. I am too but they can stay here. He doesn’t want to call OAG for his child support back or temporary custody or anything. I’m mentally not okay but I feel like I should’ve stayed quiet now. I’m losing it. I needed to rant and didn’t know who to run to cause I don’t share our situation cause it’s embarrassing and I was just trying to help her cause I’ve been there but she’s just a different breed.

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I couldn’t do it, dealing with her in general is enough for me… you’re a better than I am in that way… sorry I have no advice or anything… and we understand..

I agree with @Kailee I would not be able to do it. The way my SS mom is, she would have to figure that out on her own, but my SS would be with us. I am proud of you for even trying, it shows that you are kind and a VERY strong woman. Although I never , nor would experience that, I can only suggest you have a heart to heart with hubby and really make him understand where you are coming from and how it is important for her to go. Unfortunately he will have to choose

Don’t feel like the bad guy! This is your home , your family . If she isn’t pulling her weight or trying to get on her feet then she’s essentially another child for you . She has her own parents and is an adult . If it were me I would tell my husband it’s time for an emergency custody order , or I’m going to leave. You’re a good person and you did a good thing . But some people are wired to take advantage. That is not your fault ! Or atleast give her a time limit for when she needs to go 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Brittnie yea we’ve kind of went through something similar and that’s how my husband got the custody that he has now.

Good for you for being so kind and generous because me personally I’m not mentally stable enough to deal with my step kids mom 😭 you need to put your foot down now or nothing will change, who’s to say she won’t try and take your man too, sometimes you have to do what’s best for you

I would put it simply to my husband and say "It's her or me. This house isn't big enough for the two of us!"

Can yall get emergency custody? Then the kids will be with you and she will need to get a job and place before they can be in her care again.

She’s a grown ass woman she’ll figure it. She needs to get out of your house now. The kids can stay

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