What would you do if ur husband said this to you
My husband and I were arguing because he never thinks I’m intimate enough, after pregnancy i just haven’t had the want to have sex, mind you we have sex minimum once a week.
Other day he asked me for a nude and I said no because he’s the type to ask me for one, I’ll send it then he’ll come home and be like let me check your phone to see if you sent this to anyone else.
So instead of sending him a nude I said no because I know how you are. Then he started bringing up how I’m not intimate with him, how in the past like 4+ years ago I would “send nudes to everyone and anyone on my Snapchat” like who even says that to their wife?… his insecurities in our relationship had him make me delete every single piece of social media I’ve had for 3 years now. I asked him to get Facebook a few months back and he literally to my face said “who would you even add”..
Then yesterday I had to go to an obgyn appointment, and because I got mad at him because I asked him the night before to put the stroller in the car for me and he said he’ll do it in the morning.. never did. It snowed a lot yesterday and in the morning it was gonna take me 1.5 hours to get to my obgyn, he didn’t even clean the snow off the car for me or tell me to leave the house early because the highway has accidents, instead
yesterday I was driving down to my obgyn appt pissed off and he said exactly this “That’s why when no one wanted you I took you in a heart beat gave you a roof over your head the last few years”
Like what? Regardless of how pissed you are at your wife, this doesn’t seem like a very appropriate thing to say?
Also to add in the past three years we’ve been together this is not the first time he said stuff like this to me. He’s thrown so much shit in my face called me a whore in my past, tell me how I’m dirty, say a bunch of nasty things to me.
But this man does nothing but work and play games on his computer. Does not help me in the house or with our son, keep in mind we’re expecting another child.
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Personally if I was havin sex once a week I would also be “pretty upset” in the sense of sexually frustrated but I would not be doin the rest of this. The rest of this is unnecessary.
Hmmmm he’s giving controlling, narcissistic vibes. Sorry you’re going through this. You had to ask him to make a FB??
Checking your phone over a nude he asked for and not allowing you to have social media and making the nasty comments is abuse, he needs some serious help.
You have to ask to have fb? Wtf that's not ok, at all. He is your husband not your parent
He sounds just like my ex did… he was exactly the same. Made me
Remove all men including my brothers! He accused me of having something with my one brother. If anyone was to say stuff like that to me now… I’d leave! It isn’t okay to ask for any socials in a relationship! Honestly I would just download it and tell him to grow up xxx
Your solution to this is simple. Leave him. And screenshot every rude conversation he has with you. In case of legal matters with your safety or regarding the kids
Once a week!?!? My husband would be jumping for joy with that 🤣
He's sounding controlling unfortunately, checking your phone etc. I wouldn't stand for that!!
He needs to get right or get left 😭
Jesus Christ and this is your husband? Fuck me, he sounds like he absolutely hates your guts 😳
How on earth are you still having sex with him every week after all that?? That level of disrespect and hatred, my vagina would have sewn itself up! 😳
This man hates you. No ifs buts or maybes about it. You need to get gone and make sure your children have supervised visits because he 100% will chat shit about you, put you down and try and make them hate you as much as he does.
Tbh this really sounds like an abusive relationship... they isolate you from your friends, and always make you feel like they're doing you a favor for being with you and that you should be grateful for the bare minimum, and if you're not grateful for the bare minimum, then they punish you, that punishment is anything from silent treatment, to insults/mockery, to physical/verbal abuse. No one deserves that. Even if it's because he "has insecurities", that's no excuse to treat anyone like that, everyone has insecurities, there are healthy ways to deal with them, controlling and manipulating the people around you is NOT one of them. Good luck, I hope you can get out of this relationship ❤️ I've been there and I've seen these play out, trust me when I say he will not get better :( Please look into abusive relationships and see if this sounds similar.
He's an asshole. Insecure narcissist. Get out xxx
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