Please help me with my dog!

i know the vet said it’s normal but i don’t feel like the leaking discharge is normal at all he could have an infection

I saw the word husky then literally said "let me guess he is now pissing everywhere after the baby came"

Unfortunately I have worked with domestic dogs for years and huskies always seem to regress and need so much consistent and constant training 🙄

If your husband isn't walking him double/triple time..He should be

Huskies need a TON of stimulation

Dog is attention seeking now with the new baby

I agree with the other commentator discharge is NOT normal he should be seen by another vet

As for the other behavior your husband needs to take him on TONS of walks/runs / playing fetch till he is EXHAUSTED as much as possible

He needs to keep on top of training and stop the poop behavior now by watching him when he goes every time and not allowing this to continue or see a specialized trainer if he is not up for this

I also saw from another comment he's intact. Please get him fixed it will help with his behaviors exponentially.

It sounds like your dog is sick, yeah find a new vet, this could help in the meantime, but get a second opinion https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0006ABVGQ?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title. We give our dog an area to relieve himself. We line it with extra large puppy pads and change out as needed, we have ours in an area our daughter can’t touch. It will make things easier on you until his infection/health condition is dealt with. Most vets will give you a round of antibiotics if you’re that concerned. Also I was concerned about germs when we had our baby, but do a slow introduction, once his issues is dealt with. We started letting our dog smell the baby quickly and established boundaries. Our doctor said that children with pets, particularly dogs because they go outside are a lot healthier than kids without. It has been totally true for us, some of her friends are always sick and she is about to turn 2 and has only been sick once. Despite hanging out with those sick friends.

I’m definitely going to do that! We’ve been to 2 vets and they said it’s because he’s intact. But now I’m a little worried because everyone said he may have an infection and I definitely don’t want it to get worse for his sake

I also saw from another comment he's intact. Please get him fixed it will help with his behaviors exponentially. (Reparsed here)

Marking and other bad behaviors will continue to get worse and possibly dog aggression if you plan on boarding.

my husband’s in the military so it’s really just me, the dog and my baby. I give him TONS of stimuli like brain games, tons of playing, and walking. I walk him everyday but some days the walks are shorter because I’m working, have a 1 year old and it’s just me at the moment😭😭 He has SEVERE separation anxiety. I paid a trainer almost $2,000 for sessions to help and after a few sessions she was so frustrated that she said she can’t help us with his behavior. She was our 3rd trainer… Do you know if I should be getting a certain type of trainer or do you know anything that would help specifically for his breed

So, Vet tech here. Discharge from a male penis is COMPLETELY NORMAL. Especially if he’s intact. It’s call smegma. I have an intact GSD and it’s gross but it is what it is. Trust your vet, not some people on the Internet. And trust your gut. If you feel like something may be wrong, then definitely seek out a second opinion.

I’m going to definitely take him to another vet to get checked out because everyone says it’s not normal. I had dogs growing up and they never had that issue (They were angels) but they were also neutered. The first and second vet said it’s because he’s intact but I’m going to take him for another opinion. I don’t want to set up a spot for him to pee inside. It’s a waste. He goes out to pee every 2 hours. He could have just peed 5 times.. he used to still come inside and pee a little on the baby stuff lol it’s not about relieving himself, he just wants to mark everything. So now he’s just allowed in certain places inside the home but never where my baby crawls, eats, sleeps, or his toys are😂 & he doesn’t have accidents in the house, only on baby stuff. I hit my breaking point when the baby was around 3 months so now he’s separated.

Smegma is normal as amber mentioned but it is unclear as to how much based on the single original comment since it sounds from it it was an abnormal amount (all over the house implies this to me)

I would get him fixed to start and see if behaviors get better from there

With huskies they still will need a ton of stimulation and walks/tiring out

It's unfortunate your husband would get such a high energy/need dog when it's "his" dog but he won't be home for long stretches of time 🙄

Start with the fixing normally the behavior shift will benefit your situation

I’d love to get him fixed (my husband is against it) but we don’t have $2,000 - $3,000 to do it rn because we’ve spent so much on trainers that didn’t help one bit after the baby. Before the baby he was damn near fully trained. Even after the baby was born I tried to keep things as normal as possible for him with hiking and having my family walk him but he would howl and pull them and run away from them to come back home to find me… i have so much anxiety coming home because I know I have to deal with him and I feel like I’m just avoiding interacting with him because I can’t take it anymore. I make sure he’s exercised, fed, goes to potty, has toys etc. but other than that I keep my distance at this point. I love him so much but I don’t think I can deal with how overwhelming everything is plus me having my baby plus working plus studying to get into a nursing program. It’s getting to be too much. I’m strongly considering rehoming him but my husband is against it.

thank you💙💙💙

Oh he is intact, than that is normal behavior, if you want to keep him he will need to be fixed and you should introduce him to the baby as soon as possible if they are going to ever form a relationship. Things are only going to get harder when ur baby gets older and pulls at him. My daughter has been rough with our dog and if our dog didn’t love her, she might have bite. You need to teach your baby how to interact with the dog as well. Otherwise things aren’t going to get better. If you’re not going to do that, find him another home, here is a website where you can pick a new owner https://www.rescueme.org. I wouldn’t give him to anyone. You get to pick.

2-3k for fixing?? That is abnormal it's normally around 100-300 bucks max??

Maybe seek a low cost spay/fixing program around you

Your husband may be arbitrarily "against it" but you spending thousands of dollars on training is cost prohibitive for something that could be taken care of by a large margin with a simple neuter

For sure look up low cost programs and absolutely do not re-home without fixing as people WILL use him as a stud backyard breeding dog

Way too common with huskies and leads to more with behavior issues

2 years old is abnormal to have "mostly" potty trained

https://www.animalleague.org/get-involved/spay-usa/

There are many facilities such as this to help

Honestly from all that you have written this seems the best option to avoid a re-home and fix so many behaviors (marking especially) and will make sure he does not just run off from smelling a female in heat miles away (we have seen dogs jump 9 foot+ fences to get to them)

this is going to sound completely horrible.. yesterday I had to take my baby to the doctor and stop by my school. Probably like an hour after I left my camera’s we’re going off because he somehow got out as was roaming the streets I was mortified that he might get hit by a car or that someone would steal him or that something bad was going to happen but after like 20 minutes I felt a wave of relief. Relief that hopefully someone would find him and keep him and provide him with a home. And then when I saw on my camera that the neighbor brought him back and put him in my backyard I felt sad. Sad that he was back. I feel horrible for even having those feelings

We have a male husky/malamute and a nine month old baby. Our pup is really great with our son, he paws at us which we are try to stop, but we do two big walks a day and let the pup have the house when the baby isn't hear. When the baby is here we have been letting them interact slowly. I watch and take advice from tailoftwohuskies on Instagram. She puts out great advice for husky and baby/toddler parents. As for a trainer see if you can find a Husky specific special trainer. If they have worked with the breed before they know the frustration that comes with it. The trainer should also be teaching you and not the dog. I would also try to talk to your husband about fixing him there are medical issues, aggression issues and territorial issues that can, not saying they will, happen. Our husky is fixed and is a joy. I really hope you work with him and not rehome!

Yeah it shouldn’t be anywhere near that much to get him fixed, our dog needed a bunch of dental work and we had it done when she got fixed and in total that was $700 at a normal vet. Most of the cost was the dental work

So the "gross" part of dogs, is actually insanely good for babies. Studies have shown that children who grow up with dogs have a better immune system and less allergies. We also have a husky, and a lab. Ours are old, both 12 now but you just gotta train them not to steal the baby toys (my husky still tries sometimes) and then honestly give them love and attention and help them have a relationship with the baby. From the dogs perspective, he was there first so the baby is an intruder and now that he is not allowed in half the house it's even worse.

Do you have a backyard? If you can put in a dog door so he can go out at will, then that usually helps.

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You could also put him in training classes. Huskys just calm with age. Ours was a bit of a psycho until about 3 years old? Then he finally started to chill out.

They need stimulation. The treat puzzle toys are GREAT for high energy dogs, and a trip to a dog park to let him run out his energy is also great. Put baby in a wrap on your body and let the dog run around for 2 hours while you enjoy the fresh air. He will be so chill after that.

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really?! We got quoted a 2 different places and $1,700 was on the lower end. They said he required more sedation and meds after. He has anxiety issues. Where do you live? Because I need to come there to get him fixed😂

it’s crazy because all the training he had that was actually successful I did myself. He was sooooooo good! Like no joke. Even when he was being Spicey. He knew tricks, we went hiking, he had an awesome heal, he would bring me things, he knew commands, he was such a funny and loving dog (still is, I love him so much) but towards the end of my pregnancy I had to get others to help and that’s when he started to regress. So I would try to still walk him myself every now and then but when I was around 8 month’s pregnant I was walking him and he was doing awesome and out of nowhere he started to run, dragged me to the floor (unintentionally) I was in the hospital for days because it put me into early labor. It has been downhill since. I walk him with the baby sometimes too. I’m trying to not exclude him but sometimes I just want peace and it just feels like it’s always an uphill battle with this dog.

Whattt?? That's insane

For sure look up "low cost spay/neuter in my area"

Your vets are taking you for a ride

Do not do the yard thing/doggy door unless he is fixed he will get out

And I'm sorry you were having those feelings but honestly I don't blame you at all...your feelings are valid and you have been left with a TON of responsibility 😥

But especially if he has gotten out before...he can again and if unfixed
..run away to a female or worse if there is human/dog aggression without you to intervene

He seems beyond classes at this point especially with what you have done already fixing for sure first step and then reevaluate as others have said it may literally may be a night day difference after that

I do have a backyard, when I’m trying to get work done I’ll put him out there by himself but he sits at the door and whines for however long or he just continues to destroys our outdoor furniture or the playground set we have in the backyard, or eats the side of our house, or poops in front of the door etc. Which I normally try to correct but I’m at the point where I put him outside & I put headphones on to get work done in peace. I take him for walks with the baby but they are far from enjoyable. I play with him outside in the evenings because he really loves it when I have time (aside from walks.) I don’t have 2 hours to be out there with him. The most I have is 1 hour and I’m most likely trying to eat something. I do the best I can but one person just isn’t enough with all our circumstances right now. Doggy daycare kicked him out after a few months. They couldn’t handle the all day whining and the running away, the chewing on the crate.. they were honestly horrible. 1/2

I found a really nice lady on Rover and after the holidays I’m enrolling him in her daycare full time so that I drop him off around 7 when I’m leaving the house and I pick him up around 6 after I get the baby after work. & on weekends he’ll either be with me or I’ll see if there are any activities I can enroll him in. There’s a place by me that lets you drop your dog off for swimming lol

Maybe try restarting training like you originally did for him. If you can get him fixed, there are clinics who will do it for less I think humane society can you help you out. If you have a yard maybe try taking him out there throw the ball and have baby in a pack n play to watch your pup too. Also talk to your vet and a trainer they might know who does husky training cause I bet you they know someone who can help you.

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! I loved training with him I just don’t have as much time as I did before but we can start off small and work our way back up. I love him so much. I want the best for him but I also want to want to come home in the evenings.

That was in Orange County in Southern California a notoriously expensive place to live and it was still that much. Go to a low cost vet, we did that with our cat and never had an issue, I would have done it with the dog, but she was having dental work done and we figured it would be easier on her to do one procedure. I usually do a low cost spay and they have always done a great job on my pets. Check them out especially if the other alternative is rehoming.

thanks! I’ll look into that option so we can get it done ASAP. We live in NY

Make your evenings an event with the baby and pup. We do family walkies which leads into bathtime (for the baby), playtime, dinner and then we have the pup come in for storytime when we are putting the baby down. Just start small with a routine that will work for you all and then when your hubby gets back just insert him in lol!

I don’t know about all that. He can be around while I do bath time but he’s not allowed in the baby’s room or anywhere near the toys. That’s a form boundary that I have. He’s normally having dinner while I do bedtime with the baby and then he goes out for the bathroom and he sleeps in the guest room. He’s not allowed in my room either. I genuinely am not ready for even the possibility of the behaviors happening in my spaces rn. I’ve already had to buy a new mattress this year thanks to the dog. He wasn’t allowed on the bed and one day he figured out how to open the door (I saw him on the camera) went into my bedroom and ripped my mattress to shreds.. I am so not ready to take that step lol We’ll start with letting him be around for bath time because he’s allowed in the bathroom. And I’ll do the walk like you suggested. I love that idea.

I worked at multiple pet daycares as well

Make sure to try to take care of the poop eating/fixing before daycare (trust me)

If they are poop eaters 9/10 times it gets MUCH WORSE in daycare as dogs feed off each other (🤢 literally and figuratively) and it's a one stop ticket to giardia...

Also they can get worse mounting and dominance behavior

But for sure it will be good to get him in eventually to help curb his energy! Just talking from experience 😂

I’m at the point where anything that gets him out the house and away from me for a few hours is good enough for me😅 He’s been in daycare before. They kicked him out🙃🙃🙃

I was going to say prepare for him to be kicked out 😂😂 thoughts and prayers for the rover/daycares

they said that all he would do all day is walk around licking the other dogs penis NON STOP and they would have to isolate him in the playroom sometimes because the other dogs would rough him up after a while so it was for his safe but after a few months they said they just wouldn’t deal with it anymore so they kicked him out. That issue along with the others. When he went to the smaller daycare while I was on vacation he did great. It was him and 3 other dogs and he did really well with a smaller group

Start small baby steps are great! We started small as well we just started letting the pup in for story and bathtime this month. I am excited to hear how everything goes for you!

Ohh yes a smaller group will probably be better!

We had notorious penis/shit lickers as well 🤢 I know I'm a broken record but you looking into the fixing will for sure help

Some dogs just can't handle it 🙄🙄 the allure of the other dogs

Good to know he did better in a smaller facility hopefully they can help with tiring him out too

A lot of huskies like Lazer pointers so maybe do that back and forth too 😂

So first of all, neutering a dog wont “fix” or diminish behavioral problems. Neutering a dog before they hit their testosterone spike (usually around 6-8months old) helps reduce the amount of marking and /some/ dominance behaviors as an adult, but at this age now his behaviors are now habit based and neutering won’t make them just go away. Although yes, I do recommend neutering your dog if you want to avoid the risk of unwanted litters or cancer, there’s no real behavior change benefits to it at this point of his life. Additionally, huskies are notorious for reverting in their training if the training isn’t maintained. It sounds like the dog knows his obedience, but consistency wasn’t followed through at home. Training is expensive, so if you’ve already invested your money into it then you need to invest the time utilizing the information you learned and continue to train him. Also. Kennel him. Kenneling him will fix 90% of your problems and help with restroom and marking regulation.

Lastly, energy control. Huskies are bred to basically never run out of battery. A lot of behaviors can be controlled with good energy management. Huskies in particular love to run, need to run, and benefit from running at least 1-2 times per day. Sounds impractical with a baby yes, however that’s the breed you have and so unfortunately thats the breed you need to maintain. We run huskies either on a treadmill or on a bike whenever they’re with us for a program. Mental stimulation is also equally as important and the best way to do that is to take a few moments randomly throughout the day to practice some basic obedience or practice games. My favorite game is to throw a bunch of kibble out into the grass and letting him sniff it all out.

I agree with you 👍🏾

Except on the fixing now will not change behavior

We would have 2,3,4+ dogs get fixed and all marking behaviors and annoying humping behaviors would stop literally immediately after (especially since they also mention getting kicked out of daycare and we would have horrible dogs in facility who could then actually be in the group once fixed)

So for some dogs this does provide major significant noticeable changes even right away

But yeah they have already expressed the dog getting out and roaming and being aggressive so...for sure needs it if only to prevent this from happening

But 💯 huskies need so so much consistency and work and revert when not consistent

Agree 💯 about the kenneling as well that is a super good point

I do want to emphasize again… kennel him. Set up a schedule between kennel time and free time and that’s the best thing you can do for your dog to create structure and regulation in the household and promote a lot of better behaviors.

My background: retired vet tech (now a SAHM lol) who owns a dog training business along with my fiancé who has been training pet dogs for 15 years and studied dog behavior in college and continue to study new information through seminars and listening to other dog trainers like Ian Dunbar, Robert Cabral, Stonie Dennis, and more.

he has a schedule and he is crate trained

Update: he’s done great during bath time but last week we went on vacation for Christmas and the baby’s first birthday. We left him with someone he’s been with before and he did great last time. This time around he bit their dog twice in the face & broke skin and he’s been lunging at the dog when they’re separated. And he has started trying to fight other dogs on walks.. it was a nightmare to o have my friend call me to tell me all this. He’s always been soooooo good around other dogs. We found a training that boards for about 6 weeks so we’re saving towards it. I need him out my house for a bit.