How to tell my son about his dad ?
My son is 3 years old, I was in a relationship with his father, but in the beginning of 2022 He decided that he no longer wanted to be a father, from the beginning I knew that it wasn’t going to be easy, but I made it not only for me , but for my child. Later now we began arguing a lot more, and decided to call it quits. He than decided that he was was giving up with his rights as a father. It broke me inside because I knew that I had to be strong for my child, so since 2022 my son’s father has not been in contact with me and has not asked to see his child, but my son recently mention his dad, I distract him with other things which works , but lately he’s been asking more about his dad, I don’t know or when it would be the best time for him to explain to him about his dad. Any advice or thoughts.
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I’m sorry you and your baby have to go through this. I’m praying for you both.
thank you! I appreciate your prayers ❤️
Have a conversation, maybe start by asking your son what he thinks happened/where he thinks his father is - might give you some insight on how to approach the conversation and kids sometimes make up stories to fill in the blanks.
Tell your son what happened with his dad but make sure it’s told as not his fault or anything that could be controlled by either one of you. Tell him that you love him very much and you want to have a good life together, whether his father is around or not. Show pictures of his dad if you feel comfortable but don’t worry - kids at that age tend to be very accepting of the facts although they might have big emotions if their story doesn’t match reality, so just reassure him that he is loved so he never has to question it.
Oh god my heart is breaking when i just read that..poor little kid. I don’t know what I would do tbh. I would probably lie to him bc I would be to afraid that he’s getting any mental issue with that when he knows that he lost interest and left him. Probably he’s fear would be that you will leave him too and he’s getting to be clingy. Even i would love to be honest but I don’t know if I could break my kids heart. it’s not easy you will find a way
the last time I asked him about his dad he looked like me like he was about to cry and he got scared, and he didn’t want to talk about him
I asked him awhile ago about his dad and he looked like he was about to cry and didn’t say anything else so I get it ago, but maybe in his mind he just misses him and thinks about from time to time
ok so maybe wait until he asks again. It might be a gradual feeding of information where he takes the lead on what he wants to know and you fill in the gaps. Does he hear about his dad/your past from other people that would influence him to feeling like it’s not ok to talk about? Make sure he feels safe and secure while talking about it so that it becomes more comfortable for you both to talk about rather than a scary or unpleasant topic.
we agreed not mention him in front of him or even talk bad about him, til he’s old enough to understand what really happen
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