How do you approach the "what's that?" question when your children are asking about their genitals

Oh no that’s terrible! I’m so sorry that she did that. For me when we got the sex talk it was very sweet and just my mom and I and my newborn siblings. But for just talking about penis and vagina I would just say that’s your penis buddy. And if he asks what it does or who has it just tell him like you pee from it and boys have it. And leave it at that. As they get older of if they ask about you or see you naked or something then you could be like mommy has a vagina. I’m not gonna call it a vulva I just say vagina it’s easier and that’s what everyone calls it so whatever. But I’ll just be like mommy and girls have vaginas and that’s where they pee. And as they get older you can get more specific and when you have the sex talk that’s when you can specify even more

For my son we talk about his penis all the time. Like when changing we will say oh is your penis dirty oh let’s clean it or anything like that. I definitely don’t want it to be awkward talking about that stuff because that’s how it was and talking about sex was awkward to. I would love for it to be just an open conversation that our kids can have with us

If they ask tell them🤷🏾‍♀️ I would be straight forward based on their age and maturity that's how far I would go into it. Definitely make it known that it's a private area for them and obviously explain its function. That's how I would approach it at least educate and just mention how to be polite (no mooning their friends 😭) and how to be safe (if someone asks to see , touch ect. And Who to tell if something does happen)

That or maybe a book🤷🏾‍♀️ that's how my mom did it though it was a bit in personal it did help me with questions I had. Good luck!!

Thanks ladies I had a gentle gist of what I wanted to do but I wasn't sure how others usually approached the situation normally seeing as how i didn't get a normal talking to 💀😅🤣

Body books! There are all kinds of developmentally appropriate books to show them. Also just a plain answer “that’s your penis/vulva” is really all that’s necessary 🙂 my 19month old started exploring her downstairs during diaper change so I matter of factly just tell her what’s she’s touching. She knows the terms with no attached shame and no need to see my body in great detail. But really the books are great. They take the pressure off of you to get it right. We like “Yes! No!” because it talks about the parts and consent at the same time.

I mean I just tell them straight up. We're not at that point yet. But when I get there with my kids I'll just be straight up and honest. That's your penis, that's your vagina whatever. That's all that's necessary at a young age. Also I highly suggest not using anything other than anatomically correct names or at least commonly used ones. I've heard of stories where children were trying to tell teachers and other adults that they were being sexually abused but because their families used replacement words it took alot longer to figure out the kids needed help. I've heard a story where for months this little girl kept making the same comment. The teacher brought it up to the parents in a parent teacher conference saying her uncle must really like cookies. Cause she'd always come in saying her uncle eats her cookies. Turns out cookie was what that family called the vagina and the little girl had been being abused by her uncle for a long time and telling people but nobody understood.

Until the age of 3 mum said "that's where you wee from" then made sure before school age i knew "that's your vagina" and "boys don't have a vagina they have a penis".

Sex ed was gradual and never a deliberate task. She always made it so I could ask anything, and she'd answer at a level I would understand. Sometimes the answer was "I'll tell you about that when you're a bit older" or "that's something for grownups to worry about" ..and then give examples to me of things that I currently knew but I couldn't have understood when i was younger, so I understood that there are things we don't need to know right away