Sleep training North America / Europe
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Hi! I live in Germany, but my partner is English so I joined this group as the German one is practically dead 😅 here the view on sleep training is really different. It’s really not recommended as they say it will have a lasting negative effect on the baby. The baby doesn’t learn to self-soothe, but that his needs are not being met and no one is coming when he needs it. This could bring issues later in life like lack of trust in your environment/peers, low self esteem. I’m in the same boat as you, but I can’t bear her crying and just hope it will get better soon. I have friends whose toddlers now sleep fine after being terrible sleepers and it happened much earlier than 4.
@Ellen Hi Ellen. Thank you for your reply. Could you please let me know when you can? Does your baby seem tired and more irritable during the day? Mine does from not sleeping haha xx
@Nadya Hi Nadya! That makes so much more sense to me. We don’t let our partners or friends cry themselves to sleep so I can’t imagine making little babies do that. Obviously I’m not judging people who do sleep train - I wish I could but I just can’t 😅
I'm in London and I started the cry it out method at 5 months which I'm sure was way easier than because he was less attached. I called this place https://www.cry-sis.org.uk/ after hours of being up with him and a lady coached me through what to do. The crying lasted a week now he goes straight down without tears. It was the best thing I could do for both of us
@Jordana Hi Jordana! Oh wow. This is amazing thank you so much. I’m going to look into it xx
@Serap hi serap. Wow this makes me so happy to hear. Did she always sleep through the night?
@Olivia she does get really tired. I spoke to the Health Visitor and she seemed to think it was an over tiredness problem. I explained she has 2 naps a day if I can get her to sleep and she seems to think it was maybe a self soothing issue. She gave me a number to call apparently they can give advice on sleep so I'll call them and let you know what they say. I did a bit of research myself and apparently bad sleep can be caused by low iron. I know I have low iron myself so I would imagine my LG does too! I'm going to start taking a supplement and give my LG some red meat and some other iron rich foods. I know they say to give lots of Iron and Vitamin C rich foods anyway so it can't hurt! 😊
@Ellen Thank you for coming back to tell me Ellen! I never thought of the iron thing… I’ve always had low iron as well. I’m going to try giving her more iron see how she sleeps thank you so so much ♥️
No worries! I'm going to give the number a call next week to see if they recommend anything else! 😊
I'm in the same position, my baby won't sleep longer than an hour and a half. I'm going to the Health Visitors on Tuesday to ask them what they suggest, im 99% sure they'll say to sleep train as ive heard them say that to other mums but it's worth a shot. I'm also trying to find a different way I really don't want her to cry it out! I'll let you know what they say on Tuesday if you like?