idk what to do rn I need some support...

Unpopular opinion but it's not the woman's fault, if it wasn't her it would be someone else it's the mans fault completely so there is no point in messaging this woman unless it is to ask for evidence of him cheating
I really feel for you, its such a horrible situation to be in but don't stay just for your child, he's shown he has no remorse and he will continue to cheat x

I know it’s hard momma but you deserve so much better!!! I’ll be praying for your family!!! I’m always free to talk! Please message me anytime! You’re so beautiful momma don’t let this man ruin your shine!!!!

Sorry you’re going through this!

I agree with and more than the other woman, you need to decide for yourself and your kids what you want. He’s the problem.

Do you want to stay with him? Whether you do or don’t it seems like a conversation needs to happen between the two of you.

i do want to stay with him and i want to confront him too but when i do he'll just get in the car and leave and thats almost worse cause i dont have a car or anything so he gets to run away and i get totally stuck and isolated...i just need a way to do it where it doesnt leave me and my son alone with no way to leave

we moved away from my family almost 8 months ago so i dont have any type of support where i live

@Amanda I know it's so hard but if you want to stay for you the fair enough but don't stay because you aren't near family or for anyone else, you need to do what is right for you! You can join mom groups and meet people so you have a support system or talk to family about them helping you move back to them if that's what you want! If you let a man be the centre of your world then you open yourself to being abused or taken advantage of because he knows you won't leave xx

Unpopular opinion. If the woman knows the man has a family/girlfriend/wife she is at fault as well. Obviously it’s mostly his fault but she’s not innocent. But I agree messaging her wouldn’t do any good bc most likely she will continue doing it. You just need to decide what you want and if you wanna stay you either have to have a conversation with him or leave him. I know it’s hard though, here for you if you wanna message me 🫶🏼

Honestly it’s completely your decision what you do and we can only advise. We don’t know your full circumstances but he’s basically learnt that he can get away with anything with no consequences and has 0 respect for you. Thats not love. If you want to get to the route of things then of course you need to speak to him about it, do some counselling decide what you want to do as a couple. Me personally I would never allow a man to treat me like that (having been cheated on previously) again. Kids are never a reason to stay in a relationship they will only grow up to think that that’s the norm which is very sad. Support can always be sought whether it’s professional, family, friends etc I moved 175+ miles to be with my family after an awful relationship. I’m quite a logical thinker and would be wondering if my children would then think it’s ok for a man or a woman to treat them the same way, which of course it isn’t. I’m glad to have the man I have now but it took some awful ones x

Prayers and talk to him in a room without yelling at him talk to him bout it

thanks for all the positivity everyone...

might aswell see if he'll talk or just run again...

I’m pissed for you the disrespect is disgusting. I’m going to tell you as it is, the relationship will never ever be the same. Trust is the biggest part of a relationship and now it’s gone. You will drive yourself mad with what ifs. I’m telling you don’t waste your time on a man who will never love you like you do him. If he can even give you the respect of not playing you like a fool in front of other woman run for the hills! That’s not healthy to put your self through so much stress and worry about what he’s doing when you already have two little humans to worry about. Save your hair from greying and keep your nails from going brittle. Pack your crown and get out. When men figure out that a conversation on the matter before it happens would save so much paranoia on themselves and also not lose their partner forever will be the day I fly 😮‍💨

Don't stay for your kids sake you need to decide if you think HE is worth YOUR time and energy. I would definitely confront him about it however I would make a plan b to leave before you do so if he doesn't apologise and change jisnntoxic behaviour towards you. The mother of your children. Is he really the type of role model you want for your kids? Do you genuinely believe he is capable of change or are you just seeing the benefit of the doubt and hoping. This is not the first time. Maybe even a break away for a while could help him see what he is taking for granted however if you choose a break I wouldn't tell him that. I'd make sure he understands what you're not putting up with and that he knows you deserve respect.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with his abusive behaviour. Please reach out to a counsellor or therapist if possible. Virtual hugs 🤗❤️‍🩹

staying with him is not ok though babes , because then your lil boy grows up and sees what he does &’ thinks it’s going to be okay. you need to put you &’ ur kids first .

couldn’t agree more and the little girl grows up to think it’s ok to be treated that way. Very sad!

Honestly, the cheating prob won’t stop. Do not address the other woman. That will not solve your problem. I know as women we want to go full force emotionally but just take sometime to think about all of the things that was done over time and weigh your choices. Ask yourself if you’re willing to continue to possibly deal with more cheating and risk arguments and you not being happy or do you want to be happy and at peace (whatever that means for you). I was cheated on throughout my who pregnancy. Received multiple calls from other women, yes plural WOMEN. Our daughter is a year old now and he promised he changed. Gave it a try and within that first week, calls from another woman at 5:30am saying she was going to beat my ass lol. Old habits never die. I do now find peace waking up every morning not having to deal with relationship drama or responsibilities and only having to make up one side of the bed lol. Do what brings you peace and happiness so that you can be 100% for your kids

It’s possible she may not know about you?
I was in this situation and I confronted her and she didn’t know he had a family. He lied about everything and she had receipts to prove it.
If she does know about, that deepens the wound. I found confrontation very validating and it gave me a ton of closure. Talk to him sooner rather than later, but I’m telling you the cheating probably won’t stop if he’s doing it AGAIN.
We had to go through a ton of pain and therapy to address his issues and I’m telling you… it’s only kind of worth it :/

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. For your sanity and so your son can grow up in a better environment, I would leave as soon as you can. I saw you moved away from home. Is it possible for you to personally move home with the kids? It sucks and will hurt but staying and have him do this repeatedly will hurt so much worse and your kids will wise up to it sooner than later (or at least know something is amiss). Message me if you need someone to talk to

if i can manage to get my drivers licens leaving would b alot easier...if i do confront the girl i dont intend on flipping on her i kno she only bears a small amount of blame and thts only if she knos about me and still messed with him...i just wanna kno the facts fully before i talk to him so if he tries to say this or that i can come at him with the real details ya kno...its just bs tht he either cant see or doesnt care tht im hurting...

Hey Amanda... if your son is growing up around this man, he's is more likely to grow up LIKE HIM... to think it's ok to treat woman that way.
Also... your daughter is going to grow up with him as a role model.. and grow up seeing your mom cheated on will teach her its ok for her to put up with that from her future partner.

I don't know your situation.. and I'm sorry you're going through this.. just wanted to point that out.

Sending you love ❤️

I’ve been in a similar situation. It’s not necessarily the other woman or women that is the problem. It’s your other half to have even open that door of infidelity. I use to seek advice and had people tell me the same thing over and over again. But it wouldn’t matter until one day you decide that you had enough of being treated like that and want to move on. Whenever you’re ready.