Temper Tantrums

Yes I’m Currently Going Through The Same , My Baby Just Turned 1 . Also Wanting To Know What I Could Do When It Comes To The Tantrums

He's 13 months old and you've tried all these things which tells me you haven't been consistent enough with any of them. They don't pick it up from anyone, they aren't bad, they're getting all these new emotions, and they're expressing themselves the only way they know how. He's too young for time out until the age of 2 at the earliest. At this age redirection is the most appropriate course of action, while verbally telling them "no throwing cups, but here you can throw this ball if you need to throw something." If the tantrum is occurring it is okay for them to let those big emotions out. It's not okay to hit or scratch or spit. Tell him "it's okay you're mad. It's not okay to hit/spit/X. I'm going to move you to a safe spot until you're done." And move him to a designated area. This could be his playpen, but if being enclosed exacerbates the issue you can keep a designated soft area with pillows and blankets to move him to. A dog bed is a good solution if you're trying to create a cozy space.

I'm a former toddler teacher. It takes time, weeks or even months to see results. You have to be consistent and persistent.

So tough! I would definitely recommend reading some parenting books to get more ideas. I just finished Hunt Gather Parent and it had some really interesting ideas. I would say rather than watering the weeds by focusing and dwelling so much on the emotional and “bad” (but totally normal) behavior, redirect and water the flowers best you can. Every kid is different and he may be more determined than most to stay upset, but I think it’ll help your relationship and sanity in the long run. He’s not going to grow up and be bad!! Especially if you keep your reactions minimal and age appropriate. You’re doing good! Time outs and any sort of big reaction (pops or spanking) are more likely to do more harm than good at this point. But our parents did their best 😂 you got this!

it’s so hard!! I just don’t want him to see this type of behavior as acceptable. I literally stepped away and cried where he couldn’t see me after I put him in his play pen without toys because I felt bad but at the same time I also wanted him to know it wasn’t right 😞

We do timeout. I place him in his crib and on the walk I repeat the action he did followed no. And when I take him out I say it again “we don’t hit/bite/spit (whatever it is)” babies are social. And it does make a difference when you put them on timeout in a different room. I do/did it with both kids. Currently going through the fit rn thankfully haven’t had the more aggressive behaviors yet

I haven't been dealing with any of those behaviors but my daughter likes to screech and scream at times. We just model the "desired behavior", for example, we speak in a calmer voice, and she follows within a few tries.
She also starts whining/crying when she wants something, and I say "if you want up, say mama" and when she says Mama I come running. Positive reinforcement like that worked best for us.

Sounds like everybody has great advice for you here 🤟👶

I wouldn’t allow him to watch TV at all. It has been proven that screen time is related to aggressive behaviour

ah so sorry I didn’t see you responded! This is late haha but I read this and didn’t wanna leave you hanging. We learn morality and what’s “right” and “wrong” way later like closer to 6, 7, 8. Our babies are imitating and experimenting, not learning morality or even what’s appropriate or inappropriate yet. So punishment feels shaming to them rather than helping them to learn. Their capacity to understand good and bad is very limited rn. Emotions feel overwhelming to them so they respond in “inappropriate” ways. But their response is totally appropriate for their age. You’re doing so good, just keep in mind that your relationship and ability to stay calm is the most important! You don’t see adults spitting and screaming and stuff because we all figured it out 😂 our babies will too! But we do see adults who feel shameful about their emotions and who they are partially because parents chose to punish too quickly rather than model calm behavior. We got this🥴🤧🫶