TTC - advice / Vent

hi everyone.
Little back story I struggled to have my first for 1.5 years and had got pregnant after my 2nd Cycle at the fertility clinic, we are currently trying for another one and it’s been about 6 months into it and because of the issues I had before we went back to the clinic ( I have ovulation issues ) well it’s now been 3 months we have been doing the timed cycle this morning I woke up to my period. I have 1 more cycle left before the dr wants to do IUI or IVF.. I’m so stressed out as i currently lost my job and haven’t found another job yet. I’m currently on EI and not in the financial position to start IVF and I heard IUI also could be expensive. I’m very lost because I don’t want to stop trying and regret this decision later on. I’m hoping we get pregnant this cycle but can’t stop thinking it won’t happen… I’m lost and sad, I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to we haven’t told anyone what’s going on and sometimes I feel like my husband is not that great at being supportive or hates talking about his feelings with this. I’m very grateful and happy I was able to have my beautiful daughter and sometimes when I look at her it breaks my heart because all I want to do is give her a sibling but I feel like my body is giving up on me.

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I am so sorry you are struggling. It's really tough and stressful when trying to conceive. Also, stress can affect your cycle and make it harder to get pregnant. If you feel you aren't in a great place mentally/financially, there is no harm in continuing what you are doing now, then revisit IUI/IVF in 6 months or so. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Good luck. 🫶

Fertility is not fun. My advice is make sure you have done all the testing before forking out for ivf. Alot of women will have a bacterial infection that causes inflammation in the uterine lining (endometritis not osis) especially women who had a c section are prone to it for various reasons. But usually most fertility clinics won't test for it till you've had a few failures through ivf. It's tested through biopsy or self paid fertilisis. Cleared with antibiotics. Definitely something to look into. I know a few women who were having multiple miscarriages or failures to implant and that was the cause.

Would u consider surrogate

Im not sure where you are located. I am in Ontario and did IUI to get my son. For us personally it wasnt much. Well i guess in comparison to IVF. I think all said and done, tests, admin fees, and the actual IUI, is was about $1,000. If the only issue is ovulation IUI should be a good fit. Im happy to talk more about it all if you want to message me. I understand that going through all that is soo heavy emotionally.

isn’t surrogate just as expensive

I thought you weren't allowed to accept money for it, ive considered becoming a surrogate many times to help a family in need

honestly Im not 100% sure how it works but I would love to carry my own child as I know this is possible since I already got pregnant but this time it’s just harder for it to happen

I would assume surrogate would be a very similar cost to IVF because you still have to do an egg retrieval and embryo transfer, just into some else's uterus.

Your doctor should let you do cycle monitoring for a few more cycles. I know it is very stressful, I did cycle monitoring for a while with zero luck.

You can get government funding for IVF but I think the wait list is long and not sure how much it covers. Luckily I was in a position where I could do IVF without funding instead of waiting (did not have the time too wait since I was 36 and wanted multiple kids)

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Is this a dodgy test?

First response testing 4/5 days before my period is due! This one is even more sensitive for me because we lost a baby at 26 weeks in January! Do you think the test line looks like it might be inaccurate? Maybe I’m just in disbelief?

Help

Is this a postive or a evap line?
I’m 2 days late

well confused 🩵

Anyone help i’m 3 days late on period had a faint postive on a poundland test but clear blue digital and blue dye one saying negative i’m really confused 🩵😭

The hardest part about having no village

We hear moms talk all the time about not having a village and how parenting is just awful without having support. But I think the worse part about not having a village is watching my kid have no friends. I remember growing up and having cousins to play with, and my parents friends kids. There were always people around. But my kid, he has no one. I had kids late in life so the friends I had when I was pregnant all had kids much older than mine. My brothers kids are much older than mine. Now, those same friends dont talk to me anymore. Even if they did, their older kids probably wouldn't want to play with mine. Its hard watching my child be so desperate for friends that he latches onto whatever kid at the park he can find. He instantly calls them his friend, even if they are being mean to him. His "friends" are his stuffed animals. Thats who he has to play with. I've tried making mom friends with moms who have kids the same age, and it never works out. I've talked to moms at the park, even exchanged numbers and nothing. I dont really care that i have no friends. But my heart hurts for my son. We even had another baby just so he would have one constant kid to play with. But it took us longer than we wanted to get pregnant, and his brother is still a baby so hes not much fun yet. He's in school now, so I thought maybe he would make friends there, but when I try to talk to moms of his classmates to maybe set up playdates, I dont get anywhere there either. I dont know what I wanted to come from this post, just sharing my thoughts I guess. Maybe other moms can relate.

Am I pregnant?

I’m 18 days late from my missed period, I did a test 2 weeks ago and it was negative. I’ve just done one tonight (cheap one) & took it late in the evening & there is the faintest line. Does this look like a positive test for someone that is nearly 3 weeks late!?