In need of some advice

Hi, I have recently just found out I’m pregnant (3wks, found out quite early) after having a miscarriage in late November. I keep over thinking every small cramp or pain. Looking to see if anyone has any advice to help me not worry so much and get me through the next few weeks. Thanks !!

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Don't worry, stay calm n happy.
Thats what baby needs, i have very rough pregnancy bad cramps and nausea mood swings.. i didn't enjoy single day i should not say this but reality is hard.
Your baby feels everything when youre happy sad so start admiring it from now and you'll surely make till end this time x
Best wishes ♥️

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Hey Megan, first of all I'm sorry for your loss. I know the feeling!! I had a MMC June 2022 at 12 weeks and had to have surgery. I found out I was pregnant again around 30th November 2022, I was absolutely terrified!! I did about 700 pregnancy tests and every cranp or pain terrified me, I had a bleed at around 6weeks and because of previous miscarriage was referred to the EPAU, they gave me 2 early scans to make sure baby was growing as they should and it really helped. My little boy just turned 6 months. I was so anxious for the start of my pregnancy but it does get better ❤️

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Hi Megan, I’ve had 3 miscarriages and I’m now pregnant with my fourth. It’s really difficult to know what are ‘normal pains’ especially after a miscarriage.

My doctor said that cramps should only last a few seconds. It’s completely normal to feel as the uterus expands and ligaments are relaxing. I’ve had some quite sharp cramps when I’ve stood up too quickly or I’ve been in an awkward stance.

Try not to over analyse it unless you’re in prolonged severe pain x

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This was me last year. I had a miscarriage roughly around 6 weeks and feel pregnant around 6-8 weeks later. Like you, every little sensation or cramp set me off and the first few weeks were SO stressful for me and also very expensive as I kept on buying pregnancy tests after pregnancy tests just to make sure my lines weren’t getting fainter.
Now, thank God, i’m 40 weeks pregnant and waiting for my little man’s arrival!

I completely understand why you worry and to be honest, looking back, no matter what people told me, I still used to worry. All I can say is, have faith in your body. Keep yourself occupied as much as you can. Any sensations or cramps you may feel doesn’t have to be negative it’s most likely your little one growing ♥️

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Get a good amount of folic acid and try to stay as relaxed as you can. 😌

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I was the exact same. Lost my first in August and found out I was pregnant in November. I called early pregnancy due to a small bleed and i was thinking the worst again, turns out it was implantation bleeding. They were so lovely and brought me in 3 times until 7.5 weeks .. im now 15 weeks and the anxiety is still there. Any concerns call your EPAS unit xx

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