My husband goes silent after an argument and now he's not eating at home.
I know this is off topic but I need to talk!
So we had a small argument Sunday afternoon and he asked a question and I told him I have no answer right now, he was pissed and we remained silent as he drove. Later that night we had a normal conversation related to something else and I thought we were good again, got some fruits but he didn't eat, then he went to bed without saying goodnight. (We usually go to bed together)
Next morning he's still not talking and left home without even looking at my face even though I was standing next to the door as we always kiss before he leaves. When he came back from work the lunch was ready and I had set the table as usual, instead he went to the kitchen, made himself a coffee and grabbed a piece of cake. So I had lunch alone silently sobbing but my baby needed the food. He went to the gym and came back late, again went to bed without saying goodnight and didn't bother asking what's wrong as I'm getting flu, my eyes were red and I was coughing the whole night and even felt like vomiting.
This morning I wake up, say hi, he doesn't respond and acts around like nobody's there, so I went back to bed and waited till he left. TlI texted him a while ago if he's having lunch at home and I only get a "Nope". I know that's so much details but I've been sick all day and the last thing I need on my plate is his drama.
He always goes silent when we argue and usually it's me who starts to talk to end it up, but not eating at home? Like wtf he knows I'm pregnant and I always wait for him to share meals with. I feel so pissed this time that I don't want to be the one starting a conversation, but at the same time I hate when this happens. What should I do?
Not sure if it's just my hormones I'm 28 weeks now
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His acting up because of the questioned he asked you whatever it is he wants the answer I think . But anyways dig deep man don't act normally like that unless they are fed up on what u doing In ur part ...
It’s actually not that many details, but I’d question if he’s cheating. Not verbally ask him but just wonder… seems super over the top behavior from what info you’ve given. I would just be the bigger person and tell him you’re sorry for not responding but that you need him and want to be there for him. Make it more about wanting to support him and how you feel alone while you’re sick and carrying his baby. Good luck. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this!
What was the question he asked you that you don’t have an answer to?
It sounds like he, like most people, doesn't have good communication skills.
It doesn't make him a bad person, or you crazy, it's a matter of learning and well growing pains can come along with that.
It might not be something you can talk about until after this fight is resolved, but maybe trying to talk to him about how much this kind of behavior hurts you. Give yourselves the chances to learn how to better talk through fights and disagreement, we know they happen, that is life; its now a matter of can you both work through it together, so next time it is easier?
I hope you both are able to be better soon
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