Stop making moms feel bad for not breastfeeding!!!!
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Same @Kiana my day nurse would come in and tell me “LeT yOuR bAbY lAtCh On YoU sO yOuR mIlK cAn CoMe In” I would just sit there and look at her cause ma’am I already said I’m not breastfeeding and mind you I had a c section so my boobs didn’t get milk till 5 days pp I pump for a month and said fuck that a fed baby is a happy baby
Ashley you don’t need to explain yourself to these close minded people oh well you couldn’t breastfeed no big deal the most important thing is you and your baby being healthy!
Wow, you are way too polite for blocking her name out! I would have kept her name visible for everyone to see! I’m sorry you went through that. Our society is so militant about breastfeeding, it’s horrible.
No one is allowed to talk about it but there are lots of pros to not breastfeeding. Don’t let the bastards get you down.
Oh cmon drop the name, let’s report her!!! 😂 I feel like I’ve done a lot of reporting and blocking lately for these peanut trolls who don’t deserve to be on here. Also, I agree with everything in your post!! I formula feed and it saved my sanity. As long as baby is fed and happy, that’s all that matters to me! P.s. fuck that bitch!!!
She looks a bit crazy tbh doesn't surprise me she would say something like that🤷🏼♀️ Try cold cabbage leaves in your bra, ice packs, if you ask your Dr I believe you can take a medicine that will help dry you up if not, a lot of cold medicines will hurt production too as a last resort. Also don't try to express them any. If they get engorged and sore take a hot shower, they will leak some for sure but it helps a little bit
I didn't even choose to try breastfeeding and it was the best decision for me and my family. In response to your question, it took about 5 days for my breasts to stop leaking x
Wow you’re too good a person for blocking her name out 😂🫶🏻 Some people are just so insecure and unhappy the only way they can feel joy is finding a way to feel ‘better than’ someone else. Sorry you had to deal with that💖
I chose to formula feed for so many reasons. I was being bullied to breastfeed as well, and honestly, it just turned me off the whole thing. People just need to mind their own business, like why are you so obsessed with my boobs!! I have a happy, healthy baby who is smashing through his development. A daddy that has an amazing bond with his baby because he had a chance to spend the time with him, feeding and loving on him. And more importantly my mental and physical health is great because I had the ability to sleep and rest and know my baby was being taken care of. My milk dried up within a few days. Health nurse recommended tight fitting bra to help suppress and fluids.
I’m not even mad at this post sometimes breastfeeding isn’t for everyone and that’s what ppl need to understand and that is coming from someone who breastfed a child 🤦🏾♀️
Breastfeeding was torture for me. With my first his latch was completely wrong but being a ftm I had no clue about it so I was in agony for days. I finally had enough and went to see a lactation consultant and she told me I would need to stop nursing for a few days a pump because they were so raw and bleeding that all my son was getting was blood. It was awful. Pumping hurt so bad as well but it was better than nursing. I ended up choosing to mostly pump and nurse at night. Only breastfed for about 3 months and my supply just tanked overnight. It was wild. With my daughter we didn’t have such a rocky start, we EBF for 6 months but my daughter was not gaining weight. We watched her weight for months waiting for her to catch up, but she literally was the same weight for 4 months. Her dr reccomened I see a consultant so I went again and was able to test my milk and found out that I have very very little nutrition in my milk. Which was why should couldn’t gain weight. -
I've seen so many similar comments on here. On a question someone asked about the best formula to use, someone replied 'breast is best'. Absolutely wild, when there are those of us that can't - or choose not to - breastfeed. That Ella looks like a complete weirdo, you can just tell from her pic
We ended up deciding to switch to formula cuz I just had no more to give. We struggled for months and months to get her weight up, but to find out it was my fault broke me. She ended up gaining 3lbs in just 3 weeks. So that really solidified that we made the right and best decision for her. Breastfeeding is so incredibly hard. Yes it’s beautiful but it fucking sucks ass. Honestly I don’t think I’d do it again if/when we have more kids. Im done trying so hard only to fail.
@Alana any time anyone mentions the pros of not breastfeeding the trolls come out and make you feel awful don't they!? At the end of the day a fed baby is the best baby!
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@Ashley just gone on to your previous post and reported her too, what a vile person. Do what works for you 🫶🏻
I tried to breastfeed cause I wanted too so badly and I did it successfully for two days before my daughter had trouble latching and we ended up in a cycle of her getting upset cause she couldn’t latch and was hungry and me getting upset cause her crying was heartbreaking so while we were still in hospital we did combi feeding and topped her up with formula. I managed 5 days before I spoke to my midwife and she told me I’d given my daughter a boost as for the five days it would have been colostrum and at least I’d tried my hardest. I struggled feeling like I’d failed, but my ex assured me I’d done my best and I was recovering from an emergency c-section so my body was trying to heal at the same time. My daughter’s now 9 months old and she’s healthy and thriving and the health visitors have never had any concerns about her at all. It’s not for everyone and some have it easier than others but at the end of the day fed is best.
How awful!!!! People can be assholes about any type of topic nowadays... As long as baby is fed who cares? X
Breastfeeding can be so hard ngl ,I did it for 6 whole weeks and it was the most hardest painful thing ,some people can do it great but I definitely agree this is not something to shame other people about ,is mum's are trying are best as it is ..good thing we don't listen to those judgy assholes ♥️
I formula fed my little one from 6 weeks and shes absolutely fine even in size 6 nappies ,it's funny how people complain about people not breastfeeding but as soon as we do it in public its a big thing 🫣😂
It's horrible how judgemental people are, in real life and online! I BF my daughter for approx 4 months before I got masitis and nipple thrush at once! To fix one was to express more, to fix the other issue was to let it heal and minimal touch.. super contradictory so I had to take medication to dry it up so I could heal/ and for my sanity!
Wow some ppl suck!!! As if motherhood isn’t hard enough
Wow shame on that person....you're right, so long as the baby is getting fed by whatever means that's all that matters! Just ignore ppl like that girl, they're insecure about something and projecting onto you and others...
I literally just seen who you were taking about and she’s always rude and acts like such an asshole to people. I don’t what’s wrong with her. Sorry that she said that to you and you shouldn’t have to explain yourself. Sorry I don’t have any advice for breastfeeding but I hope you are okay. You are doing great 🩵
@Priya Ann 🇬🇾🇬🇧 drop her name! Honestly that type of energy shouldn’t be on an app that is meant to be a community of moms supporting moms. She should be reported for hateful comments!
@Priya Ann 🇬🇾🇬🇧 and this is a mum thats commenting these things too ,thats just crazy!♥️🤦♀️
My mom couldn’t breast feed me because I’d literally spit/puke it all up and got no food that way. I had to have a special formula mixed with rice cereal (it was the 90’s) just to keep anything down. Point being there’s several reasons ranging from mom to baby for why you can’t and it’s not a new phenomenon. When I decideded to stop my supply was already dropping from stress and I was exclusively pumping. So I pumped one last time to make sure I was totally drained then didn’t again, I leaked for about a week. If you would like to keep breastfeeding and haven’t tried taking sunflower lecithin yet they can help make your milk less thick which would prevent clogs. However, if you already have and it’s still a problem or you’re just done then perviously mentioned things like cabbage leaves and the hot shower were all things I saw for suggestions for stopping or reducing supply. Best of luck to you and hopefully you get those infections to stop one way or another and get some relief.
FTM to be soon and trying to give BF a shot for baby’s sake but I just really wish I could provide baby with immune system benefits without that. Does anyone have experience with EBF via pumping? Does that increase risk for infections or cause an oversupply? Please DM me if you can share.
I love a woman doing what she feels is best and even if it is due to body issues then just do it. There are unfortunately people who will say things no matter what way baby is fed. I didn’t breastfeed my first at all and had a lady at a restaurant try telling me that I should but I didn’t really care her opinion because my baby was doing just fine…she’s now a healthy almost 12yr old. Breastfed my middle child for 6 months and hated it the whole time, breastfed my almost 2yr old for over a yr and hated it….he refused bottles and wouldn’t take milk (even pumped breastmilk) from a sippy so I couldn’t switch him to bottles after 3months (which was basically my plan). Anyway, you just keep feeding your baby and don’t worry about a thing. To dry milk, I believe cold cabbage leaves are supposed to help.
People should not be bullied or penalised for choosing something THEY do with THEIR children. I didn’t breastfeed at all for many reasons mainly because I wanted my partner to have that bonding time with our baby… wow what a horrible mum that makes me wanting a father to bond with their child…. Some people are such Karen’s!!
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@Hannah If you go on Ashley’s page and click on the post you can find her x
@Holly yep. Honestly, not nice at all.
@Daria wow! they need to stop doing that in hospitals seriously.. its very unprofessional
Yes breast milk is good but formula isn't bad either. No one should make you feel bad for doing what's best for you and your baby. Not every mom can breastfeed and there are reasons why a mother chooses not to do it. In the end it doesn't matter how you feed your baby what matters is your baby is fed end of discussion!
@Ashley my problem isn't clogs from milk. I've had this recurring breast infection since 2017 from an issue with a breast reduction I had, but thank you. Also don't worry I'm not in pain, it just has gross stuff that comes out randomly.
@Ashley im glad your not in pain from this issue. Also I believe no matter how your baby is fed you are doing amazing don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
The whole shaming other moms for making choices best for them and their kids needs to just stop. As long as your baby is fed and you're both doing well that's all that matters. @Ashley I'm sorry you were spoken to like that, especially for asking a valid question. Isn't that what this app is for? I'm also sorry that you're going through your infections, that doesn't sound fun!
Agreed I hate that the formula packaging even says "breast is best" on the back like why are you making us feel guilty. There's a reason formula exists. I tried to breastfeed and didn't produce enough milk I couldn't even fill a syringe and it became stressful for me and baby so I had to accept that she's bottle fed. I feel theres so much pressure on us girls now to breastfeed and if you decide not to or can't you're made to feel guilty. This needs to stop. Breastfeeding is a CHOICE having babies A CHOICE. A fed baby is a happy baby and my baby is happy and thriving. So don't let anyone guilt trip you or make you feel inadequate if you're not breastfeeding whether it's healthcare workers family friends etc. Us mammas have enough to deal with 🙂
It's awful that you even need to give them a reason tbh. Breastfeeding is such a personal choice. It's your body, your baby, and you get to decide the choices you make with both!
I'm a breastfeeding mum, a breastfeeding advocate, and training to be a breastfeeding counsellor and I am absolutely appalled by some of the things I read sometimes from both sides. No one has the right to tell you how to feed your baby. We should all be supporting each other in our parenting journeys. I'm so sorry you had such an awful comment on your post! Did you manage to get advice for drying up your milk? Because that is something that breastfeeding counsellors can help with if you need it.
Sending you love! I’m so glad to see how a lot of women came to support you! It looks like her comment is gone and I couldn’t click on her profile. Kudos to the women that support one another. 💕❤️
@Alison isn't this community awesome! Women should be standing up for one another and not against ✊️
@Lauren I’m pretty sure they have to write that by law. It’s not to make you feel guilty, it’s a fact that breast milk is best for baby as it’s tailor made for each child. That being said, if you can’t breastfeed then do what you need to do to have a healthy baby.
@Michelle Le yes we all know how hard motherhood is we have to stick together ❤️💕
@Ashley ahh then yeah sunflower lecithin won’t help. Yeah if that’s the case you just have to stop.
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Shoutout to all Women that struggled with breastfeeding but still carried on and stayed strong!! It is not a easy task at all! It effects you all different way and is the biggest challenge! Sending you lots of love♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@Kiana it really is and she sucked as a nurse too, my son would have to get checked for his sugar levels the first 24hrs and she wouldn’t swaddle him back too like girl that’s the bare minimum she was just my day nurse so I’m happy my night nurse was more delicate and respected my choice
Wow that's very rude. And I say this as someone who's been breastfeeding for 18 months now. I know how hard breastfeeding can be, I went through so many ups and downs and I would never, God forbid, make comments like that to someone who is trying their best. I believe breastmilk is the best milk you can give your baby but I know it's not ideal for everyone. That's why I believe fed is best.
I stopped breast feeding due to me giving my baby thrush over and over again. So I completely understand. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. When stopped breastfeeding her thrush cleared instantlyb
exactly i cant stand when people do this! After i had my daughter i felt hospital staff tried to bully me into breastfeeding. I had no medical reason not to but the pain was too much. My daughter is 4, healthy & happy thats all that matters!