Not attracted
I hate even having to write this out but I really need advice. Me and my fiancé have been together for two years and just recently I feel like I haven't felt any attraction towards him. He has put on some weight so maybe thats why?? But I feel like I should want to be with him no matter how he looks. I just feel really shitty about not feeling attracted to him, and it makes me worry that I'll never feel attracted to him anymore bc he is a great guy 😭
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Try to remember what drew you to him to begin with. And if youve just had a baby (up to like 18m) your hormones can cause this.
Oh wow I did not know this!
I totally get this. Maybe it’s a good idea to talk to him about making an effort, maybe go to a gym, go on dates, and spend more time together to bring back some attraction. Because sometimes attraction can be not only looks but a good attention, nice sex maybe to spice things up a bit 🔥.
If possible, spend some time with him without the baby. It will change the way you see him.
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Did you start feeling this way prior to postpartum?
Sex aversion after birth is super normal!! Natural birth control 😆
I would start a gratitude journal. Writing down a reason you’re grateful for him every day and see how your mindset shifts. I had a friend who said she did this when she and her husband were going through a really rough patch and it changed everything. She even said some days she wrote down that she was grateful he went to work and left the house. But thinking about positive attributes helps change the way we look at people.
Attraction comes and goes when you’ve been with someone for so long , I agree with the other women, start a journal jot down 3 things you admire in him daily have a heart to heart with him about what you’re feeling because he loves he’ll listen and take heed to what you’re saying and will start making those changes . Hope this helps ❤️
@Chanel I wish we could but we don't really have anyone to watch him 😕
@Meghan Levy I don't even know when I started feeling this way but I feel like I've been pushing off sex bc lately I haven't been enjoying it
Understandable. Maybe try changing the scenery. You can do a staycation. Travel somewhere close by and stay in a nice hotel for a day. (Baby can still be with you all)Sometimes a change in environment can shift the way you see things.
Yeah that's true! I've also thought about going to my parents house for a few days maybe being apart will make me miss him more and make me wanna be all over him
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