Any divorced moms out there?

My darling may the good Lord bless u

I was divorce and remarried I know what it's like and it's not a permanent situation

It shook me in my boots. But therapy helped, to get yourself right, continue to be a great parent and also be strong enough to establish a good co-parenting relationship. All very hard things while you’re at your weakest. Being in the courtroom I was very scared. I’d never been in front of a judge before and my lawyer was too willing to make concessions and I had no idea about anything. But i found my soulmate 6 years later, married another 3 years later, with a blended family and even had another baby! It was definitely a few hard years, working, no child support, no help anywhere. But I just had to get to know myself, and by being myself met someone that I could be solid with.

Thank you. I feel utterly isolated in this process and my friends don’t really understand how emotionally difficult it is as they have never gone through it.

yes I felt the same. It was all fine and dandy while we had similar life styles, but once I was divorced they didn’t know what to say to me anymore. I felt very determined to just carry my load and do what was best for me. I couldn’t always go along in their events anymore, now working FT and they’re SAHM, but also I didn’t get stuck in any drama I wasn’t present for 😆 I didn’t always have money to go along in things, or able to buy big gifts, like they bought for my child or me. But I also had friends who should’ve definitely divorced but told me my life was too difficult and they didn’t want to live like me so they stayed… like WTF 🤬 You definitely should’ve just kept your mouth shut. Maybe it was better they didn’t speak..

I had so little energy left that at rock bottom I really felt that saying they have about the oxygen mask. Yourself first before you help anyone else. Anyone who wasn’t with me, I had to label “against me”, I had no resources for bystanders or hangers on, or judgers, or just generally people who were no help. I could not afford to spend time or energy on them. You have to be on my side or I have to let you go. This is an overcrowded life raft and anyone threatening the physical/mental safety of anyone else on board shall be thrown back into the ocean! (Figuratively 😂)