finding yourself again

i feel like i’m stuck in some sort of rut, i don’t know who i am anymore. i’m 6 months pp and i hardly wear normal clothes, i just throw on leggings and a jumper or a tracksuit when i need to pop out or take my little one for a walk. some days i find it hard to even get changed, i’ll stay in my pjs all day. i don’t know what kind of music i like or what clothes will suit me now, i don’t know how to style my hair and i don’t even have the time to think about putting on some makeup. i used to be such a high maintenance girl and take good care of myself, even if i wasn’t going anywhere id put on a nice outfit but now i don’t have it in me and it takes a toll on my confidence and my mental health. i see all these mums put together with a cute outfit and their hair all done and i need to know the secret. if you have any tips or advice please let me know i’m struggling over here x

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Have you tried any baby and mum classes? I felt very much the same at the beginning of my journey (which is not very long so far tbh). i just knew that i need to have a goal to get out yo see someone at some point otherwise i will start to struggle. That gave me a bit of a boost. I still only wear leggings and hoodies but maybe add some concealer to those baggy eyes on mine. It helps to feel less stuck when i have somewhere to be at a particular time, otherwise i would not leave the house. In terms of being high maintenance…. I dont find that i can anymore. Each time i shower is wash body only shower and if im lucky i might have time to shave one leg 🫠 I think what helps me accept myself now is telling myself that there is a season for every version of you. At the moment it’s not so glam version that needs as much sleep and comfy pjs. You are still there mama, it is just a different you 💕

i’m 17 months pp and i still feel this deeply! i got into a good routine a while ago with looking after myself too and then went through another rough patch and mentally declined, but im trying to make a conscious effort to do things for me! even if its go for a shower, my little one actually loves to play in the bathroom while im the bath or shower (if my partner isn’t home to entertain her) and i still get a good 15 minute shower to myself! when you pick up the joggers to chuck on think to yourself what have i got to wear instead? or if you grab yourself a quick snack to fill the void think could i make a sandwich instead? motherhood isn’t as glamorous as everyone on social media makes out to be and it’s important to remember that you are doing an amazing job mama, keep going x

I feel the exact same, I gained so much weight during pregnancy and now have lost all confidence in myself as none of my clothes fit, so I only ever wear, leggings and a hoodie and I feel so unattractive. I used to walk out the door feeling good and sexy, and now I just feel like a bum. And I don’t know how to dress anymore. And I hate it so so much. And I end up spending days in my pjs too. I feel genuinely ashamed in myself of how big I have gotten. I went from being a size 10/12 to 16/18 and I don’t even know where to start with losing weight. Well I do but having the motivation to exercise. I’m just lost. And I can feel I’m losing myself.