TTC

I had a chemical pregnancy and after that it took us about 6/7 months to conceive again and I don’t have pcos and have regular periods. I do think it’s a case of just being patient. One thing I did take a month off of all of the testing etc and basically stopped trying just to de stress myself as it was getting on top of me, that same month I also did a bit of dieting and lost about 8lb or so. We then got pregnant the following month when I went back to retesting but do think that the reset and de stress did help x

Just relax and stop ‘trying’. Enjoy having intimacy with your partner and if it happens it happens. When I stopped testing it happened a month later and I thinks that because I relaxed and just let it happen. 😊

I have pcos too. I took myo-inositol which helps if you have pcos so that might be worth a go. Also, try to have sex before ovulation too. Not sure if you are just trying at ovulation time but for best chances BD every other day leading up to peak, peak day, ovulation day and the day after. Your fertile period is basically the 5 days before peak and 2 days after. If you have quite long cycles just try to BD from when your fertile period could be, i.e. looking at my periods over the last year I knew I could ovulate from cd20-39, so I didn't start trying until cd20, as it is a long time to try to BD every day when my cycles go up to 50 days!

People saying ‘just relax’ really frustrate me. It’s not advice and kind of dismisses how difficult the emotional and physical journey is after a loss. It puts blame on you as the woman and suggests that it’s not happening because you’re not relaxed. While a break might be helpful to reset, personally the worry and grief I carried with me into trying couldn’t just ‘disappear’. I lost last year and finally conceived again in December and I promise you I wasn’t relaxed.

Make sure you get referred for all the help you can access to make sure you’re feeling supported on this journey. Wishing you all the luck, you are doing your best ❤️