Having a break
For couple who have been through this. Please only comment if you have first hand experience.
My partner and I are going through a bit of a rough patch we have an 11 month old daughter, he says he still loves me and finds me attractive but has lost the feeling/connection, he feels we have become more friends. He has suggested moving out to his mums for a while to give us some space. Has anyone had a break and come back together or will this break result in a permanent split?
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Hey my little one is just over 1 and it's definitely caused a real strain on our relationship, lots of arguments recently, little man's sleep has been all over the place x
Do you have time for the two of you??
We don't get time to ourselves at all only in the evening when he's gone to bed, I've also just started going to the gym for me time which has really helped x
No we very rarely go out on our own with out little one, October was the last time! But like you we have the evenings when we have put her to bed but both just end up sitting on separate sofas scrolling on our phone! x
The question is how do you feel about him moving out of the house, stay away from the child you both created together. Do you still have the same love and attraction you had? Then it’s worth tryna go to a couple therapy rather than him moving out and taking a break. There’s no such thing as break when you want to make things work ( I don’t know if he still wants to)
I’ve been through quite similar situation so i can tell from the experience that you need to talk it out and put an effort. I was fortunate enough that my partner was the one doing all the effort as I used to get burnt out looking after our 11 month old and didn’t have energy for my partner in bed or do anything else together.
May be get someone to look after your child for few hours and go on a date night or do what you guys used to love to do together etc.
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