Setting boundaries
Hi just need reassurance for some background I’m 19 with a 9 month old baby currently living at my boyfriend’s parents house he’s the oldest and has 3 younger sisters (16, 11 and 6) I’m super close to the 16 year old and we trust her around our son, since the two younger ones are still little we don’t let them do as much with him. The 11 year old likes to push her limits we’ve said in the past we don’t want her picking him up or holding him but she’ll do it the second I step out of the room and her younger sister seeing this behavior and copies her which has pissed me off a lot and when I tell her not to do it she comes back with a snarky remark saying she was just looking after him. We have had too many conversations with her but she won’t learn I don’t know if I’m just being an asshole and too overprotective. Her parents aren’t much help either I’m losing my mind and I wanna smack some sense into her
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I’m not in that situation but I was the younger sibling I was 6 when my first nephew was born 8 for my second nephew 9 for my niece my favorite thing when they came to visit was getting to hold them and feed them and play with them it was something I always looked forward to. Now for the first couple I always had to sit down before I could hold them and I couldn’t just take them I always had to ask but for my nieces I didn’t have those rules I got to hold them because I proved that I could handle it. For me I understand your rules especially since they aren’t following them but maybe giving them things to work up to to show they can handle helping and following your rules because he is your son
Personally I just think they’re trying to bond with their nephew although an 11 year old is little not all are immature I have a 12 year old sister she takes care of my baby ( she’s 4m) she even feeds her and burps her because she wanted to bond with her neice. Don’t see it as a bad thing it is frustrating for kids to not listen however try to come terms with it if she’s not causing any harm I don’t see the problem