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July 2023 Babies 🇬🇧

Don’t want to share my baby, is this normal?

So not sure I can get these feelings down 100% in words but I’ll try! So I’ve recently started feeling like I just don’t want to share my 7 month old with my partner and his family. We moved up to Scotland on my due date and so both of our families are still down in England and I think we’ve only seen them twice in person since little one was born. I don’t mind my family seeing her but for some reason I absolutely hate the idea of his family seeing her and her being part of their family if that makes sense? There’s nothing wrong with them to make me feel this way but I’m not close with them. Hate it when he sends videos of her or FaceTimes them and they always call her daddy’s little girl even though she’s really not at all! I know she might be at some point as girls usually are but she isn’t right now and it annoys me that they call her that! Just to add I wouldn’t ever say she can’t see his family and my partner doesn’t know I feel like this so it’s just in my head when it’s happening.

As well as that I’m also starting to look at going back to work and finding a job. Nursery is a definite no at the moment because again I don’t want her bonding with a stranger more than me. So I’m looking at working two days a week when my partner is off work but this is making me feel sick just the thought of leaving her for so long even if it’s just two days a week. I know her dad is capable of looking after her but he does get stressed if she cries and again I just don’t want her to bond with him more than me as awful as that sounds. She has always been breastfed and I’m worried if she has two days off then she’ll not have as strong a bond with me! Also for the past month she has started to cry for me if I walk away from her so worried she’ll just be crying all day!

Basically I just feel like she is mine and I don’t want to share her! Is this normal to feel like this? Please no nasty comments just looking for help and advice