Uninvolved grandparent
So just for some background, My partner is one of 4 yet he seems to be the only child she just isn’t bothered with. As in she will go 4-5 months no contact with no issue. She doesn’t live in the same country as us but comes back to ‘visit family’ about twice a year. And we ALWAYS make the effort to drive the 2 hours to her so she can see the kids.
Our issue is that other than the 2 visits a year she makes absolutely 0 effort to be involved in our children’s life. Doesn’t ask for photos, doesn’t ask to FaceTime, doesn’t even message to ask how we are.
Our one year old had to have surgery in December and the recovery is a LONG process. My partner sent his sister a video of our child re learning how to sit up. We then received a message from his mother saying how disappointed she is that we didn’t send it to her. My partner stated back that we just aren’t in regular contact enough for her to come to mind when sending these things and apologised.
She has then gone on to blame us for not not sending her photos every week and facetime her like his brother does with his baby.
We firmly believe it shouldn’t be our job to keep her involved with being a grandmother to our daughters if she makes 0 effort. Are we being too harsh?
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No i don't think you are. Shes making the decision to not be involved so leave her be. Its not upto to make sure grandparents are bothered, its upto them. Don't let it consume you. Enjoy your life without worrying about her, because she's obviously not worrying about you or her grandchild.
I don’t think it’s harsh. I’m the same way with family. Your sole focus is being a mother and nurturing your relationship with your baby. It shouldn’t be your responsibility to nurture anyone else’s.
You have enough going on trying to raise a family and look after your recovering little toot 🥰 It's up to her whether she wants to be involved or not. She sounds petty and childish tbh. I hope your wee girl is doing well after her surgery 🌼
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