SAHM - Do you ever regret not going back to work?

No I love being a sahm. I have so much freedom during the week to take him out to classes or park and go have brunch w my other sahm mamas. I’m out every day just enjoying places, baby boy just tags along. He’s now 4 and goes kinder 3* a week anyway. So this is perfect age to go back PT if you wanted to

I’ve been a stay at home mum for 5 years and honestly I can not wait to go back to work, I’ve worked while being a stay at home mum and it just made me miss working full time! All 3 of our children that aren’t home full time with us will be starting kindergarten in the next few weeks so I’m currently job hunting

Honestly, some days I really do. I miss the routine, making money, speaking to adults but also I do love being at home with him but mentally it’s been such a struggle for me personally. I was planning to put him in nursery but we can’t afford it right now so that upset me to be honest

It has its days. I’m not even going to lie, it gets really hard to only be around a baby/toddler all the time. I love my son and I’m so glad that I get to be there every day. I haven’t missed a single milestone or a new word he learns. We snuggle all the time, and I’ve been able to teach him so much. All of that is so great. But sometimes I'll go an entire week without leaving the house. I don't have regular conversations with adults, and it is VERY easy to lose yourself to motherhood when that's literally all you do. And that's not even touching the financial aspect of it and whether or not your partner is actually WILLING and able to financially support your wants and needs. If your partner is not on board (in all ways, not just financially), it breeds resentment on both sides.

There's pros and cons, i wouldn't change my situation for the world, and i plan on home-educating when the time comes, so this is a long term, sustainable thing for me and for my family.

I love being a sahm. I wish I had saved more and spent less on things I didn’t need that I thought I needed so that I could stretch my money further. I do think it’s a sacrifice that is worth it. And now that my daughter is 2 I am looking for something remote and part time. Not my dream job but something that doesn’t take time about with my LO

No, It was definitely the best decision for us. Some days are challenging but I would rather a challenging day taking care of my son than being at work. As my partner works from home he has been able to watch our son grow up too. I don’t miss work at all, the only thing I struggle with is that I am going to have to go back to work eventually and after having a career break I worry this is going to be difficult to do.

I know that if I had gone back I would have regretted it, I will never get back this time and the toddler years are proving very enjoyable. We don’t know yet if we will have another child. It was not an option to return to my job part time and we didn’t have family to help so he would have had to be in childcare full time and after the costs of this I would have barely been earning anything. For me, the amount of money I would have been bringing home was not worth being away from my boy and the effect on him by being away from me.

I stopped working when pregnant with my son(high risk) and never looked back. I don’t regret it. I have been home now since 2003! Time really has passed quickly LOL. So, to answer your question, I absolutely 100% do not regret being a SAHM.

I found ways to still get the adult interaction by being involved in my Moms Group and thankfully my Moms Group is a Group for Moms but, kids are there( if that makes sense). The organization realized that Mothers were not leaving once their littles went to school so, they have now added in Teen and Tweens and Mochas of Adult Children. I also am very involved at my children’s schools and have met many friends there as well. Not to mention, my Mom was a very active Grandma!

I’m a Stay at Home Mom but, by no means do I actually Stay at Home😉😍

I was a stay at home mom for 12 years and I loved it. I did have some years that I worked. I also worked from home. Now I'm a stay at home mom again since I had my 10 month old. Literally miss working because of the money and finances helped. Now I'm looking to get a job working from home.

Pros and cons of being a sahm vs job outside of the home:

Pros:
-money with job
-possible new friends
-some "you" time before and after shift

Cons:
-less time with little ones with job
-more stress about home life with job
-if you or kiddos have doc appointments or get sent home sick from daycare kindergarten you'd have to leave for the day with a job
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Pros of being a sahm:
-know your child's schedule
-know what they ate
-watch them grow and learn
-teaching them new words and milestones
-watching the development
-having Noone dictate your schedule in case of emergencies

Cons:
-money is not here.
-no "you" time
-little to none adult conversation


Hope this helps

Only bc I feel bad my finance doesn’t get the same relationship with the girls I know he wishes and is jealous of me being home with them 24/7. But I do miss making my own money sometimes too

Honestly, both have their perks and their drawbacks. I worked with my older 2 after maternity leave, and I feel that I lost so much time with them. Now I stay home with my 2 smaller kiddos (and my older ones too since they are homeschooled) and even tho some days I feel like am lacking some adult time I love that I can be the one to teach my children and to know I am not sending bad manner people to our world. It also gives me the opportunity to be a part of every milestone. I have been in both situations, and my personal opinion is that I love being at home with my kiddos, and whenever I need some adult time, I can also get it.

Nope

Hell nah. I worked my ass off for seven years and it was depressing af I felt like I could never take care of my mental health or health in general bc my jobs were so demanding.
I do miss being good at something and socializing but I do not miss the frustration and tol it took on my body.
I'm good at being a mom now😂 I don't see myself going back to work.
But I also empathize with those who actually liked their jobs but I would still wait until my LO is older if I ever wanted to go back to work. These first few years are so important for their development and im happy to be apart of it.

I need your motivation! I have two kiddos and I want to make the most of SAHM life

find local Mothers groups. Baby groups, baby sessions at the libraries. I found some mamas from those groups that I chatted to and got their number and started meeting outside those groups, by ourselves. Then we can go literally anywhere on any day at any time xx some mamas I met on here too. Just out and about, getting my steps in for the day I try to hit 10k, and coz I also do the #1000hrsoutside challenge, that motivates me to get out and about w the kids.

thank you for sharing I will def try some of those things. Thanks girlie 💕

I LIKE YOUR STYLE!

oh girl! I’m a social extrovert I can’t stay home. Lockdown nearly sent me to a mental home if it wasn’t for the walks and sneaks to the beaches I did for my sanity LOL 😆