Vanishing Twin Syndrome
Hey,
so i had early scan at 6 weeks due to having health conditions and previous miscarriages i wanted to be sure the baby was fine…at this appointment i found out that i had twins and was so excited as i started to believe they was my miracle rainbow babies. I went for early nhs scan at 8w3d and how found out twin b had disintegrated and twin a was absorbing it. I never thought this would ever happen im so devastated. I think there should be more awareness about this…the hospital didn’t offer any pregnancy loss support afterwards either so im hoping that other mums here can relate and share support and ways they found to cope or overcome it as i’ve got to be strong for the other twin but its so hard to not be stressed out and im so scared off getting too stressed and loosing the other x
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This is a big reason why they do not do scan this early vanishing twins is extremely common but most people never know because scans are typically done closer to 12 weeks for the average patients. I had an early scan due to health issue as well and it was twins but one didn’t have a heart beat so they had me come back still no heart beat so it was confirmed vanishing twins. I experienced some bleeding which I was told may or may not happen with vanishing twins. At 1st I assumed with was just the vanishing twin but if I didn’t know I had a vanishing twin I would have been certain it was a miscarriage since I had had 1 before. Ended up in the ER to confirm that I was miscarrying the 2nd twin. It was very stressful since I knew one was gone and that make it hard to determine if what I was experiencing was normal for miscarrying one or not normal. We were able to get a biopsy on the twin that last longer and it had too many chromosomes it would never survived. sending Hugs it’s hard.
I had similar. I got pregnant with help from fertility specialists, and my first scan was around the 6 week mark. I found out it was twins and my husband and I both were incredibly excited. Week 7 I had another scan and both were doing good still, then 2 weeks later at Week 9 I was told twin A hadn't grown in 2 weeks and had no heartbeat. They confirmed again at Week 10, as did the hospital at my nuchal translucency ultrasound at Week 12.
What helped me was talking to someone about it, as well as some learning I had done previously through the clinic that told me early loss and non-implantation can happen when the baby wouldn't have survived due to chromosomal abnormalities. Thinking about the baby that way helped me, that they wouldn't have survived so it was better early like that before they could feel or experience any pain. My husband and I also named them and plan to do a memorial service for them at some point, just the two of us.
Where I live I was able to connect with a peer support network and speak with someone with a similar experience. For her, she said it helped to think of the twin not as a baby but just as a clump of cells.
I know you said the hospital didn't have any supports but check if there's a group in your local area, there may be something not connected to the hospital.
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