Single mums,why are you single? I'll start
4mos ago was my discovery day. Confirmed BD was lying and cheating. It's a deal breaker for me so I took baby and left to my mom's. Then another d day was 3mos ago and he had a girl in my bed which was my baby's bedroom. I was enraged. He assaulted me that morning and got arrested a week later.
That's why I'm a newly single mom.
What's your story?
I wish mine was as easy as "I froze my eggs and chose to be a single mum!" Lol if this is you then amazingggg
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I’m so sorry that you went through this 😞
For me it’s a bit different, we weren’t really that serious when we were seeing each other, more like good friends/drinking buddies who very rarely did things together. Baby was a total surprise but he said he would support me no matter what I chose to do and I chose to keep my LO.
BD stepped up and moved in and we tried to be together properly but I just always felt like he wasn’t bothered, always felt like I was walking on eggshells when I mentioned baby - he would just go quiet and not say anything, we didn’t do anything together, barely even kissed he just wasn’t that bothered, went to a festival in July together and had an argument and I could never look at him the same after that.
I tried to stay but he used a lot of my anxiety and fears and turned my own words against me.
I was severely depressed all the way through my pregnancy and knew the relationship was one of the reasons why so I eventually broke up with him in October -
- and moved back to my mums. Had LO in December and BD is absolutely besotted by him and is a good dad! Comes over after work twice a week for an hour or so and then has LO 9-6 on weekends.
The best part is we get on a lot better now we’re not trying to be something that wasn’t meant to be, I’m really happy with how things have turned out x
My story:
He had a double life. One with baby and I (happy family). Another with a bodybuilder girl in another county. He abandoned us for her and refuses to help. I found out because I saw them on a date when he told me he was working.
It was the worse feeling of my entire life. He walked past us like we were invisible and pulled out money to pay for him and the girl’s food after saying he was going through hard times financially.
He ran to the bathroom and I confronted her. She had no idea but stayed with him anyway. To this day they are all over social media “in love” and he acts like the baby and I don’t exist. It’s disgusting. He is the one who convinced me to keep our son and not give him up for adoption. And this is what he does.
I plan to shit on his grave when he dies. I don’t care about the girl but abandoning our son while I was financially dependent on him and he knew he was about to abandon me is sick.
Was planning on breaking up with BD because I started to find out he wasn't the person he was showing himself as. We were only dating for 2 months at that point and the front was fading. Found out I was pregnant that day. Tried to see if we could work it out for a few months after, and in those months, he showed me that he was a terrible dad to his firsst kid, had lied to me on multiple occasions, kept trying to manipulate me into doing things, and I suspected that he had gotten me pregnant on purpose. So I broke up with him. Later found out he did get me pregnant on purpose and found out he was still dating his last BM for the first couple months of our relationship. I now feel so dumb for not seeing all the red flags in the beginning but definitely should've expected it when an almost 30 year old man wanted to date a 19 year old. He is now in a new relationship and has only met our daughter twice. You live and you learn
I left my last long term relationship 12 years ago as I wanted kids and he didn’t. Fast forward to 2021 and we run into each other in a London hotel breakfast bar - he’s married with kids, I never found anyone. A year on from that in 22 and I go through another round of disappointments re dating so get fertility checked. I was then 40 and got told I only had a 10% chance left I.e., months not years as egg reserves were super low. My mum and I pooled our resources and bought 3 rounds of IUI & 3 vials of donor sperm. Round 2 worked. Baby boy is 6 months old this week 💙💙💙
So sorry you went through this, I hope you and baby are ok❤️
Here’s my story: baby daddy lost his attraction to me way before baby even came but continued to love bomb me for months. His excuse for not having sex with me was either that he’s tired, change of lifestyle, work stress or low testosterone until one day I caught him lying about getting an appointment for the testosterone levels. I confronted him which didn’t end well, he ended up breaking up with me because of how I reacted to him lying then he said “it could have been an attraction issue” we slept in the same bed for months and not once has he tried to initiate anything or spice things up. Declined therapy etc. AH MEN
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