3 year old hates me since new baby
We had a new baby 3 months ago and my relationship with my 3 year old is in bits. We were absolute best friends and she was the happiest thing. Now shes understandably having to adjust to this but I can’t take much more of the way she looks at me with anger in her face, not wanting to cuddle me or talk to me. Also started wetting the bed after a year dry. I feel like our bond is broken and I am trying soooo hard with her but she just hates me. I’m so scared she will never get over this.
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She doesn't hate you, she needs you. What we did with my 4 year old when we had a new baby was we created a baby free space for her in the house. Something that was just for her, could be a corner in a room or one of those tents. Also, try to arrange time when it's just you and her, no baby. Do something fun. Also, try to get her to help you with the baby, bring you wipes or nappies etc. Tell her what a great big sister she is.
we do all this 😭 I just don’t know what else to do or say to her, she’s been getting loads of attention from me and constant praise when she does something nice to the baby etc, telling her how special she still is to me and saying I understand that it’s been hard for her. She just keeps pushing me away. I can only hope our bond will come back one day. X
Threenagers are difficult! She might turn a corner when the baby is a bit older and can play with her. My 3 year old is hard enough without having a baby too.
Have you tried a sticker chart for behaviour?
I found my relationship started to get better with my daughter when my son was around 7 or 8 months. So it may just be a waiting game. However, although mine and her relationship started getting better, she then did start acting aggressively towards her brother. We're through that now though! My son's 12 months old and they adore one another. No helpful tips I'm afraid, just some reassurance that things will get better with time, and this is just a stage.
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